Using You 5 Senses For Mind Blowing sex

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Using Your 5 Senses For Mind Blowing Sex

Having great sex is about so much more than just the physical aspects. You have to look at sex as an holistic being – that is, you need to pay equal attention to every aspect of it in order to achieve the ultimate satisfaction. This is easier for women because we naturally use all of our senses in day to day activities, so by becoming more in tune with them during sex is going to make those elusive orgasms a lot easier to come by – literally!

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1. Sense of sight

Of course, the physical attraction of your partner is an important part of sex, but you can also use other visual stimuli to make sex more intense. Surround your bedroom with erotic photos, watch a porn movie together, or dress yourself in sexy lingerie when your lover comes over. Join a naughty website and look at pictures, or send rude photos to one another when you’re apart, to masturbate to. Try a spot of voyeurism by joining a swinging club or website and watching other couples have sex in front of you, or perform a sexy striptease for your lover. Exciting your brain is just as important as exciting your body. In fact, one can’t happen without the other.

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2. Sense of touch

Physical intimacy is super sexy so use your imaginations to spice things up and get tactile in a way you’ve never done before. Always make sure you have touchable skin – body lotions and exfoliants should be mandatory in your bathroom. Learn how to give an erotic massage to your lover and have him do the same for you. Play about with temperatures by dripping cold champagne or warm candle wax on your lover’s skin as you work them. Invest in some luxurious bedding like satin sheets or a soft, fluffy blanket – our skin responds to what it touches, so spoil it! Best of all, nothing quite beats the eroticism of being kissed all over, so use your sense of touch as a powerful foreplay tool.

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3. Sense of smell

Smell is the most powerful of our senses, evoking memories, desires and passion. Use scented candles and incense to set a romantic atmosphere. Body lotions and perfume can trigger a powerful emotional response so ask your lover what his favorite scents are and go from there. Better still, exploit your own pheromones as your natural smell drives all guys wild. There are pheromone sprays you can buy which accentuate your natural aroma. Use sweet-smelling food as an aphrodisiac and turn dinner into something much naughtier. Strawberries, chocolate and vanilla are three great-smelling examples. For pure animal attraction, both of you should go ‘au naturale’ when having sex – no fragrances, candles, incense, nothing, just the raw smell of sex. There’s nothing more powerful.

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4. Sense of sound

Words can have the same effect as hands, triggering emotional and sexy responses within us. You can use music to set a romantic atmosphere, or whisper naughty things into your lover’s ear to get him all worked up. During sex, be vocal. Don’t be afraid to shout or scream your desires, and all those guttural noises you make as you’re being fucked are such a turn-on for your lover. Hearing how much you’re enjoying what he’s doing is exciting and erotic. Use your cellphones to have phone sex with each other, or record yourself masturbating and give the audio file to your lover so he can listen to your pleasure anytime, anywhere.

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5. Sense of taste

Everyone knows the power of aphrodisiacs. Using food as foreplay will usually lead to mindblowing sex later on, so choose your foods carefully – chocolate, champagne, ice cream etc. Feed each other slowly and deliberately and build the sexual tension. Turn yourself into dessert by lying down and having your lover pour chocolate sauce over you before licking it off. Incorporate food into the idea of oral sex – bananas, cucumbers, asparagus, they can all be used to tease your lover to distraction. Blindfold your lover and feed different things to him. Make an elaborate dinner, each course sexier than the one before. Use your tongue to visually tease him as you eat and savor your wine, keeping your lips moist and inviting.


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How To Swing

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How To Swing

Swinging, or “the Lifestyle,” is becoming increasingly popular with couples. It’s when you and your partner have sex with other couples or individuals, either at organized events or private parties. Everything is 100% consensual from both partners and swinging has been proven to help strengthen some relationships in many ways. For instance, one partner might want to explore certain sexual fantasies which their lover isn’t into, so swinging lets them indulge that fantasy without cheating. Other couples have sex with different people so they can learn new techniques or just widen their experience, which makes them better in bed with their regular lover. But it can be tricky to know if swinging is right for you. Also, how do you even approach the subject with your wife or girlfriend?

How to bring it up

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how well you think you know your lover, swinging is never an easy subject to broach. In fact, the longer you’ve been in a relationship, the trickier it can be, because your lover will wonder why it’s taken so long for you to mention it. Don’t just steam on in and say “I want to try swinging,” you need to be more subtle. Perhaps say that you read something in the newspaper and you were wondering about what her views were. Or you could tell her that you saw a TV program that claimed most women have fantasies about swinging, so is this true for her? Gauge her reaction and trust your instinct about whether you can pursue the subject further.

Set the ground rules

If you’ve got past the talking stage and have agreed to give swinging a try, it’s vital to set some ground rules. Swinging only works when there’s 100% trust. After all, you’re going to see your lover having sex with someone else – how is this really going to make you feel? You have to agree what each of you can and can’t do. Maybe you’re OK with her having vaginal sex with someone but you don’t want her to have anal or oral sex with another guy. For her, she might not be comfortable seeing you have a threesome, but she’s OK with you going down on another woman. Agree what’s allowed and what isn’t, and go from there.

Your first time

It’s going to be strange swinging for the first time, so just remember that you don’t actually have to ‘do’ anything. Always go to reputable, organized parties or events (go online to find one near you,) and read up on the etiquette before you go as most swinging events will have strict rules about what you can and can’t do. Communicate with your lover as much as you can as the evening wears on, ask her if she’s comfortable and reconfirm that she’s happy for you to sleep with another woman. When it actually gets to the moment of no return, a lot of couples can find that they’re not OK with the concept after all, so be prepared to go home unsatisfied if your lover changes her mind. More importantly, respect her decision, because this is about both of you, not just what you want.

Different ways to swing

At most swinging events there will be different rooms for different activities. Voyeurism is common, watching others have sex, and this is a good way to get accustomed to the swinging scene if you’re still a bit nervous about participating yourself. ‘Soft-swinging’ is anything outside of penetrative sex, so oral sex, masturbation, kissing etc. ‘Full swinging’ is going all the way. Threesomes and group sex are also common, but all participants must be identified before the sex begins – you can’t just see a group having sex and decide to join in. You don’t need to be in a couple, to swing, either. Plenty of single people attend swinging parties, although it’s much easier for women to gain admittance as a single guest than it is for guys, so check out the events in your area to see which ones accept single men.

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Erotic Massage

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Erotic Massage

Learning how to give an erotic massage will open up a whole new world of sensuality for you and your lover. It’s usually men who benefit from massages in those naughty little Thai places you see in dark alleys, but if you can teach yourself similar techniques which will drive your lover crazy, you’ll be a superhero. Erotic massage isn’t just rubbing in the right places, though, it’s about combining touch, smell, sounds and even sights and tastes to create an intense, sexual experience. That’s because women use all of their senses to become aroused, and erotic massage ticks all the boxes. It will also open up your own responsive capacity and allow you to become more in tune with your sexual senses.

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Identify her erogenous zones

Any massage is pointless if you don’t know where to go. We all have certain areas on our bodies which respond to a delicate touch. They don’t have to be sexual areas, either. Ask your lover where she likes to be touched, or just go exploring. Popular erogenous zones include the nape of the neck, inside of the elbows, the scalp and head and the inner thighs. You’ll soon know which parts are exciting her.

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Tease her to please her

The key to a successful erotic massage is building up her sexual tension until she just can’t take any more. This means actually staying away from her clit, pussy and vagina for as long as possible and concentrating instead on the other erogenous zones you’ve identified. You can go in close, like doing long strokes up her inner legs towards her pussy but stopping just short of any actual contact. Do that a dozen times, rubbing harder and quicker each time, and she’ll be begging you to put her out of her misery.

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Use plenty lotions and potions

There are lots of gorgeous massage lotions and oils out there to enhance the erotic massage experience. Use fragrance to set the scene, experiment with warming and cooling oils to vary the temperature on her skin and perhaps invest in some edible massage lotions so you can use your hot tongue, as well as your hands, to tease and probe her.

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Going in for the kill

Once you’ve decided to start touching her intimately, take your time and learn to respond to how her body feels beneath your touch. You can use your cock to massage her breasts and maybe even get a little oral action as you pass by her mouth. As you massage her pussy, pay attention to every section including the vulva, labia and clitoris. Feel where she responds most fully and gravitate towards that section. If you’re penetrating her with your fingers, try to find her G-spot and massage that, too. The key is to watch, listen and feel her body as you massage her, and let her responses guide you to the time and place when she’s finally ready to orgasm. Ask her how she wants to come. Does she want you inside her at the critical moment? Does she want you to manually take her all the way or have your tongue do the honors? Agree before you start how the erotic massage is going to end, so you can be prepared to give her the end result she’s craving.


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How To Become A Sex Goddess


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How To Become A Sex Goddess

Every woman wishes they had more sexual self confidence but it can be difficult to totally let go and just let your sexual desires take over. Tapping into your inner sex goddess will enable you to be bolder and more imaginative when it comes to sex, and also give you the confidence to take control of your own pleasure and ask for what you want. A sex goddess is not a slut or an overtly sexual woman, she is a self-assured naughty girl who fulfills and inspires fantasies and is in control of her own sexual destiny. Famous examples include Cleopatra, the Italian courtesan Veronica Franco and, in the modern era, Sophia Loren. Think strong, think confident and think mysterious.

Identifying your inner sex goddess

There are so many different types of sex goddess, so you don’t have to pick an actual person to model yourself on, just the attributes which appeal to you. For instance, you could be a rock goddess, someone streetwise and sassy, creative and sensitive. Love goddesses are those who give, give, give, and who love providing home comforts and calmness to their lovers. Natural goddesses will love the outdoors and be in tune with their earthiness and all of their five senses, whereas passion goddesses focus on arousal and desire, with foreplay a specialty. Then, of course, there’s the actual sex goddess herself, feminine and provocative, someone who knows how to tease and tantalize. All you have to do is think about what turns you on and makes you feel sexually powerful, and tailor your inner goddess to be that woman.

Using your goddess

Decide what your goddess is for. Do you want her to help you get dates? Is she there to help you find your sexual match? Maybe you just want her to help boost your self-confidence? Think about what your chosen goddess would wear, say and think in any given situation. If you’re using her to find a date, she can give you the confidence to wear that sexy outfit you’ve always wanted to try out. She can help you start conversations and ask questions that you’d usually be too reserved to try. If you’re in a long term relationship, your goddess can help remind your lover how fabulous you are. You can even use your goddess just to satisfy yourself. Try out different personas in the comfort of your own home by role-playing different personalities. You can even take her out to see how she behaves in different situations then, once you’ve decided which goddess feels most natural to you, use her the next time you’re on a date.

Have fun

You must always choose an inner goddess you can have fun with, someone who’s an extension of your own personality, who can reveal your hidden depths. She should never be someone you’re not comfortable with because this will show on the outside and will not be attractive to others. Sure, she can help you find the confidence to do things you’d never usually do, but she should never force you into situations that feel uncomfortable. We’re all actresses, so think of your goddess as the role of a lifetime, and experiment with different ways to play her. Imagine yourself as this goddess the next time you masturbate and feel how empowered she makes you. Then you can channel her when you’re next having sex with your lover, and let her give you the confidence to be more adventurous or to take the lead.

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Attaining Pleasure Every Day


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Attaining Pleasure Every Day

We were all born free spirits, but somewhere along the way social conditioning has dictated that it is somehow wrong to expect and enjoy pleasure every day. With pleasure comes a certain degree of guilt, as though to experience something nice we must endure something horrible to make up for it. But this is a total fallacy. We all deserve pleasure, and we all deserve it whenever we choose. There is nothing arrogant or indulgent about wanting to enjoy life to the max and feel physically and spiritually amazing all the time, so it’s time to bin everything you’ve been taught and start learning how to attain pleasure every day.

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Use nature’s power

We are organic beings, much bigger and more important than the material things we surround ourselves with. It’s OK to own beautiful stuff like houses, cars and clothes, but the more in tune you can get with yourself as a person, the happier you’re likely to be, because you’ll realize that superficial things don’t matter. What does matter, is health, happiness and a good heart. This applies to sex as well – our bodies are natural sources of pleasure. There’s nothing sinful or dirty about having regular sex, or masturbating every day. Take a proper look at your clit, pussy, vagina and ass and consider all the different ways they can be pleasured. Then get pleasuring!

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Change the way you think

We are constantly being told that pleasurable things are bad for us; from eating rich, calorie-laden food and drinking alcohol, to taking long holidays or lying in bed for hours. Sure, we have to be sensible and not overdo things, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with indulging in the things that make you happy, without suffering the guilt. If it feels good, then it is good!

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Give yourself what you deserve

You’re a good person, right? So what’s wrong with following your dreams or indulging in things which make you feel good? Whether it’s sex, travel, food, entertainment or something more spiritual, nobody has the right to tell you you’re not good enough or worthy enough to deserve pleasure.

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Worship yourself

Enjoying pleasure also means you have to treat your mind and body with respect. Staying healthy, taking care of your body, getting sufficient sleep and generally listening to your body and recognizing its sights, sounds and smells, means you’ll be in a better position to treat it royally, and realize when something isn’t quite right. When it comes to sex, worshipping yourself also means you’re more likely to enjoy longer, more intense orgasms, because you’ll know what turns you on and how to get there.

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See the bigger picture

Pleasure isn’t just about sex, it’s simply about pursuing the things that make you happy. Whether it’s small things like eating a few blocks of luxury chocolate after dinner or enjoying a sensuous bubble bath, to bigger issues like following a career dream or visiting a far flung city, attaining pleasure means chasing anything which will enhance your soul and make you feel richer.

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Recognize obstacles

Attaining pleasure isn’t always easy for people who’ve been through trauma, like victims of sexual assault, abusive homes, substance abuse or even things like being bullied at work. Learning to recognize obstacles which might stop you from attaining pleasure will put you in a better position to overcome them. Rehab, therapy or simply talking to someone you trust, will help those obstacles evaporate so you can make yourself more open to the pleasure you deserve.

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Take Control

Especially in your sex life, it’s important to know that you have the power over your own destiny. Never give in to people or let them tell you what to do. Don’t let partners dictate how you behave sexually, and always be confident enough to say ‘no’ if a situation makes you feel uncomfortable. Don’t use sex as a weapon, withholding it from a partner as a punishment for something they’ve done, and don’t let sex be used against you, either. Attaining pleasure is about purity – the simple pursuit of things which make you smile and laugh. Giving in to your urges is one of the most natural instincts we have, so don’t be afraid to just let yourself go, guilt-free.

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Who’s The Naughty Boy?

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Who’s The Naughty Boy?

Every man wishes they were irresistible to women. You know the type – the guy at the bar who the girls flock towards like moths to a flame. He’s usually handsome, charismatic, funny and a little bit dangerous, everything you think you’re not. But here’s the thing… anyone can be that guy. The key to being a Naughty Boy is confidence, pure and simple. It doesn’t matter what you look like or how much experience you’ve had, there’s a Naughty Boy inside you just waiting to get out and I can show you how to unleash him.


What makes a Naughty Boy?

Lots of guys think that, to be naughty, they need to be nasty, because all women are supposed to love ‘bad boys,’ right? But real Naughty Boys are not players. Despite what you might think, women are absolutely not attracted to men who treat them badly. What they are attracted to is intelligence, sexiness and a whole load of confidence. A man who is comfortable in his own skin, who knows what he wants and how to get it, and who isn’t afraid to take risks and explore the world around him, is going to get the girl every time. He also has a mischievous streak, a cheeky side that’s always full of surprises. He is never predictable and makes sure to keep his lovers entertained, excited and fulfilled, especially in the bedroom.


Why women love a Naughty Boy

They say that like attracts like but, as far the laws of attraction go, lots of women will go for a guy who represents their own ideals, even if they don’t live by the rules themselves. For example, some women don’t have the confidence to be bold in the bedroom, but they love being with a guy who is, someone who can teach them new things and how to express themselves sexually. Women also love guys with an adventurous side. Having a lover who likes to push boundaries is exciting and intoxicating to us, because we never know what they’re going to do next. Naughty Boys also represent danger. We love being led astray by men of mystery, as long as you also have the strength to keep us safe. In short, women love Naughty Boys because they make us feel alive, alert, adventurous and sexy.


How to become a Naughty Boy

Being a Naughty Boy isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you think. Confidence is everything, it’s the No.1 attraction for women, so feeling good about yourself and having high self-esteem is going to make everything else happen more easily. To get that confidence, you have to accept who you are, flaws and all, and learn how to make the most of your strengths and maximize your weaknesses. For example, you might not have the best body in the world but you have sexy eyes and a quick wit, so your conversation and flirting skills are what you should be concentrating on. Perhaps you’ve only had a few sexual partners in your life and you don’t want a potential lover to think you’re inexperienced. A Naughty Boy will turn that into a positive and convince a girl that he’s been saving himself for ‘the one.’ Simply put, all you have to do to become a Naughty Boy is be honest about what you want sexually, emotionally and romantically, and always be ready to try new things.


Using confidence to release your inner Naughty Boy

My Confidence Coaching Program will teach you how to build up your confidence so you can approach girls with ease. I’ll show you how to get to know yourself intimately, because knowing who you are is the only way to go after what you want. Once you’ve discovered what really turns you on, I’ll then tell you how to go out and get it. In no time at all you’ll be enjoying a whole new world of naughty adventures and using your new-found confidence to live the lifestyle you deserve.

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My Naughty Nomad Office

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My Naughty Nomad Office

My job lets me work from where ever I am in the world, but that means I need to bring my essentials so I’m always prepared. Even if there’s no internet connection, I can still work from any where until I get some where to can connect to the internet.

I’m either working in a hotel room or by the pool on my iPad, which I’ve turned into a mini laptop with a gold case to match my naughty business. I use to travel with my laptop, but it was too heavy so I decided to downsize to an iPad which is so much easier to fit into my travel bags.

Before I do anything on my iPad or update my websites, social networks or blog…I always write everything down with my gold pen by Kate Spade in my Naughty Travels Notebook, which I had custom made. This is the notebook I take with me when traveling to take notes about what I discover in each city and what my plans are for my work updates. I like having my notebook titled “Travel” on the front so I can easily grab it when I head out on a trip, as it keeps my organized.

My iPhone is a must and something I take with me every where because if I can’t get an internet connection with my iPad, I usually can with my phone. Plus it’s great for photos when I can’t take my camera, especially at night when I don’t want to carry around a bigger camera or I want to be more discreet with my photos.

My favorite camera is my new Fuji! It takes amazing photos but is simply to use for someone who doesn’t have a lot of camera experience. The buttons on the camera aren’t complicated at all and super easy to use. Plus the camera connects to my phone, that way I can easily download my photos to my phone where I can edit and upload to the web right there on the spot.

Another must have are my to white leather covers on the left on side of the bed from The Daily Edited. One is for my iPad with my initials on them and the other one holds my notebook, pen and other work materials I need when traveling. They both fit super easy into my carry-on suitcase.

And every naughty traveler needs a sexy suitcase which is why I choose a red one to match my naughty business by Steamline Luggage. They offer some of the sexiest and cutest luggage out on the market…vintage inspired.

Lastly, my naughty nomad office isn’t complete with my red/gold vibrator from my very own toy line Naughty Toys! It’s a must when traveling as it helps me to relax and focus on discovering naughty things to do around the world.

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