Naughty Walking Tour San Diego

 

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Naughty Walking Tour San Diego

By: Sienna Sinclaire

I offered a free naughty walking tour in the Gaslamp District of San Diego for my Naughty Guide to San Diego book launch. I headed to San Diego for the weekend where I stayed at the Hard Rock hotel, right outside of the Gaslamp sign, making easy to get to my tour.

The tour was on Saturday at 1pm. There were about 25 people who showed up to attend my walking tour. The tour lasted over an hour, where we walked about 15 blocks total.

I took people back to the late 1800s of San Diego’s naughty side. I wore a saloon girl dress of the 1800s. I showed guests old brothels in the heart of San Diego. After the tour, we ended up at an old brothel where we mingled over drinks.

But I couldn’t stay too long, as I had my Book Launch Party later that night that I needed to attend too along with changing into my showgirl outfit.

 

 

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Channel Your Inner Courtesan

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Channel Your Inner Courtesan

They are the legendary women standing behind every great man of history.

From Napoleon’s Josephine and Louis XV’s Madame du Barry, to Charles II’s Nell Gwynne and Wyatt Earp’s Shady Sadie, courtesans have spearheaded many a sexual revolution and were often some of the most educated and entertaining women of their day.

Courtesans may have provided sex for the various men in their lives, but these women were not ‘just’ prostitutes – their duties went much deeper.

A good courtesan would be knowledgable about the world (often self-educated,) and be able to hold conversations about politics, economics, history and art.

They were funny, witty, sharp and confident and, above all, they would have brilliant business minds and be able to read men like books.

Courtesans were in control of their own fates and, to this day, they are considered some of the cleverest women in history.

I’ve taken some of the most renowned courtesans throughout history and used their stories to show how you can channel their talents to help boost your self-confidence, make you eminently dateable and transform you into a tigress in the bedroom.

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The Confident Courtesan

Nell Gwynne (1650-1687)

The mistress of England’s King Charles II, Nell is famous for her rags-to-riches story.

So, if you’re lacking in self-confidence, the tale of a humble girl from a poor part of London who rose to become a respected and much-loved courtesan and companion of the country’s monarch, should be an inspiration.

Nell’s father died when she was young and her mother was an alcoholic who ran a brothel, so the odds of Nell amounting to anything at all were slim.

Employed by one of her prostitute friends, Orange Moll, to sell fruit at the King’s theater during performances, the attractive Nell was soon drafted into the theater’s acting troupe at aged 15.

With training and networking among London’s high-society thespian set, Nell turned into a confident young performer and she proved to be a natural upon the stage.

Not only that, but she began to attract the sexual attentions of her rich and connected audience.

Prior to meeting Charles II, Nell was the mistress of numerous nobles, intellectuals and actors.

Her ‘procurer’ was the Duke of Buckingham, who regularly set her up with wealthy clients.

As her confidence grew, Nell quickly learned how to please a man and also was unafraid to ask for what she wanted – very courageous for a young girl from the poverty classes in 17th century London!

When the King eventually noticed her, Nell even had the cheek to demand 500 a year (around $30,000 today) to ‘be kept’ as his mistress. The King refused, but Nell’s confidence intrigued him.

At last, the two became lovers and together they had two children, both recognized by the Crown.

Nell had to battle many other mistresses for control of the King’s bedchamber, including the famous Barbara Palmer, who herself had five children by Charles, but Nell’s sharp wit, supreme confidence and irascible sense of humor always proved irresistible to the King who, on his deathbed, famously asked “let not poor Nelly starve.”

By channeling Nell Gwynne, you’ll be inspired to stand up and be proud of who you are.

It doesn’t matter what class you are, how much money you have or what parts of your body you hate.

Treat the whole world as a stage and decide which character you want to be, then become her.

Confidence has no boundaries or prejudice, but it’s something everybody notices, especially men. So forget what others do or say and just think “if Nell could do it, then so can I.”

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The Sexual Courtesan

Theodora (c.500-550)

The only woman to go from courtesan to saint, Theodora was a high-class prostitute in Byzantium (modern day Turkey) who was said to be “superior in intelligence to any man.”

Although raised in the poor classes, Theodora was charismatic, beautiful and self-educated.

Becoming a prostitute at a young age, she was quick to realize that a woman who could command sexual respect could also command personal respect.

She made it her business to know how to read men and went out of her way to satisfy them sexually knowing that, if her client was happy, then she would be amply rewarded financially.

Theodora was so admired she soon drew the attentions of Emperor Justinian, who marveled at her sexual prowess and was determined that no other man would experience the pleasure Theodora gave him- so he married her.

Now the Empress, Theodora was now one of the most powerful women in the Empire, although this did not stop her from learning new sexual techniques to use on her husband – she was streetwise enough to know that she could easily be replaced should the Emperor’s lust wane.

Theodora also used her sexual power to persuade her husband to let her become involved in the politics of the day.

Her extraordinary influence over him meant she was able to convince Justinian to legalize consensual prostitution, expand the rape law to include low-class women and prostitutes, and to outlaw brothels which employed slaves.

In other words, Theodora fought for the rights of women to sell sex with their full consent, but also to protect others who were being forced into prostitution by their pimps.

Other reforms that Theodora influenced included separate prisons for women (with nuns as guards,) founding a ‘retirement home’ for former prositutes where they could live out their remaining days in peace and safety and, her most important leacy, convincing Byzantine society that women should have the same sexual freedom as men.

In a world where women were treated like second class citizens (or worse) and sex was about the pleasure and fulfillment of men, Theodora was a torch-bearer for the sexual rights of women.

Not just that, but she was insistent that women should enjoy sex as much as men, that they had a right to sexual pleasure and shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what they wanted.

Using Theodora as inspiration, you will discover hidden sexual strengths you never knew you had.

If you can imagine all the obstacles she had to overcome nearly 2,000 years ago in a completely male-dominated society, to fight for women’s rights, then the fences you have to jump today are bound to feel tiny in comparison.

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The Datebale Courtesan

Veronica Franco (1546-1591)

Possibly the most famous courtesan of all time, Veronica Franco learned the art of seduction at a young age as her own mother was a high-class “onesta” (Italian courtesan.)

After a failed marriage in her teenage years, to a wealthy Venetian merchant, Veronica began targeting other rich businessman, nobles and royals, and educated herself to such a high level she was able to out-debate many of her suitors and clients. She also wrote poetry and fought for women’s rights.

The reason Veronica Franco makes the ideal courtesan to channel when it comes to dating, is that she was an expert in making men feel at ease and drawing them to her confident aura.

She wasn’t only beautiful, she was super-aware of what men wanted and how to give it to them.

She knew that listening was one of the most valuable skills she had, and she was adept at flattery, charm and massaging the egos of nobles, princes and kings who needed to hear how great they were! Veronica wasn’t just a high-class prostitute or escort, she was a much-valued companion to many men and, when she was arrested for witchcraft by the Catholic Inquisition (many courtesans were accused of the crime,) Veronica gained a rare pardon thanks to the intervention of numerous well-connected clients who spoke on her behalf.

By channeling Veronica Franco, you can learn how to behave confidently and comfortably around men you’ve only just met, and make them want to be around you.

Possessing the same aura of calm, being knowledgeable about different subjects and encouraging your date to ask questions and engage in varied conversation, will not only boost his ego, it can do wonders for your own.

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How To Get Curves Naturally

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How To Get Curves Naturally

You know how it is; slim, willowy women want to be curvy and curvy women want to be slim and willowy. The grass is always greener, right? But here’s the thing. Whatever you aspire to, it takes work. Those with a little extra weight know that they have to make lifestyle changes in order to achieve the slim shape they desire. Similarly, women who crave more curves must realize that curves don’t just appear overnight, you have to work for them. So instead of looking up your nearest plastic surgeon or paying for other procedures like liposuction and butt implants, try exploring all the natural ways you can get the hourglass figure you’re after. What’s more, you’ll also be helping to get rid of cellulite, dimples and dull skin…simply by working out.

I’ve teamed up with my own personal trainer, Shawn, to share some easy, effective tips to help women who want to rediscover their curves. Shawn has helped me totally transform my body, as well as reconfigure my mindset, so that working out is no longer a chore, it’s something which invigorates and inspires me.

Last year, I’ll admit I was struggling a little. I may have been only 38 and had always been in good shape or so I thought – but nature has a way of creeping up on you when you’re not looking and suddenly all my old habits were beginning to blow back on me. Whereas before I could eat fast food, enjoy a drink and barely exercise yet still stay slim, now I was starting to see differences in how my body was reacting to that lifestyle dimples, a little cellulite, more tiredness and lack of energy etc and, despite a year-long fitness and nutrition regime to try and combat what was happening, nothing was working. I hit a slump; together with the dimples and cellulite I was also getting a bit of a belly and my bum had started to sag. Most people probably never noticed, but I did, and we all know that things like self-confidence comes from within. If something matters to you, then it’s important, regardless of what others may or may not think.

I didn’t want to use ‘natural ageing’ as an excuse for letting myself go, so I decided to look for a trainer and nutritionist who could really help me get back to where I needed to be. I came across Shawn last year and I couldn’t believe my luck when I found out he was a personal trainer, nutritionist and holistic advisor, all in one! I was wary at first, as not all trainers know what they’re talking about, especially in LA, where everyone seems to be a trainer of some description but, boy, I definitely hit the jackpot with Shawn! I’m not just saying that, either, as I’ve had plenty of trainers in my life and I’ve gotten rid of most of them, but with Shawn it was clear straight away that he was the real deal. The clock was ticking, after all, so I didn’t have any time to waste!

Almost a year later and my body now has plenty more curves, exactly where I want them. Some people think that adding curves adds weight, but it doesn’t. It’s all about fat loss and weight distribution. Working with Shawn I have lost 10 lbs of fat which has been replaced with muscle, and I’ve lost 2 inches around my waist plus 3 inches around my belly. I’m also much stronger and have tons more energy, which was one of the most important things for me.

So now I’m going to share with you the tips Shawn has given me to help other women with small frames attain those beautiful, sexy curves you’ve always craved.

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Tip #1 Limit Your Cardio

The number one thing women tend to do when signing up to a gym or starting a new workout program is to pound those cardio machines, banging out miles and miles on the treadmill, powering through spinning classes and generally going as fast and hard as they can, as though the more intense the workout, the faster the fat will burn and the muscle will build. But it doesn’t work that way and, if anything, you could be doing your body more harm than good if you go off too fast.

If you want to build curves, you have to stop burning too many calories during cardio because you’ll actually lose muscle, not gain it, but it’s muscle which is going to give you the curves you crave. Toned muscle also helps smooth out dimples and cellulite and will improve the elasticity of your skin and prevent it from sagging.

Work out smarter, not harder. I’ve lost a lot of fat and a lot of inches from simply working out less and working out smarter. Hitting the cardio might help you drop pounds more quickly, but it’s also putting stress on your heart and your body, and that can often speed up the ageing process. And remember, dropping weight quickly isn’t going to make you curvy, is it? It’s only going to make you skinny and leave you with no energy or strength because your muscles have nothing to hang on to.

So now I’m going to share with you the tips Shawn has given me to help other women with small frames attain those beautiful, sexy curves you’ve always craved.

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Tip #2 Stop Calorie-Counting

That doesn’t mean you should go out and eat pizza every night, it just means that counting calories doesn’t necessarily lead to weight loss or achieving the perfect body. Not only do we tend to do too much cardio, but we eat less as a result, and this is a big no-no. It’s not the amount of calories in your food you need to look at, it’s the type of food you’re eating which is important. And if you’re used to doing lots of exercise, then your body will naturally crave more calories in order to keep up your energy levels. So if you’re going to work out, you need to eat!

When you work out too much and eat fewer calories, you are starving your body, and when your body enters this starvation mode you are surrendering control of it there’s nothing you can do to stop your body battling for calorific survival. It will start to convert and store everything you put into it, as fat. So think about it. If you starve yourself or significantly reduce your calorie intake as you work out, you won’t be losing weight at all, you’ll be gaining it, because your body will start making fat instead of burning it. Worse, you have no control, either, where that fat ends up and once it’s arrived at its final destination (bum, thighs, belly…) it can be impossible to shift.

So think about your diet and what you’re putting into your body. You need to maintain a healthy calorie intake but via healthy foods. It goes without saying that you should avoid anything processed, fast food, TV dinners, anything in a packet. Eat fresh, eat healthy, and don’t pay too much attention to the number of calories. It’s the nutrients, vitamins and water you’re ingesting which will help you get those curves, not the amount of calories on their own.

For example, if I said you needed 1800 calories a day, that doesn’t mean you should just head out and eat any foods which add up to that number. Do your homework, research the best foods to eat and make meal plans. You can actually eat a lot of food on 1800 calories if you know what’s what.

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Tip #3 Be a heavyweight

No, I don’t mean you should bulk up and become some butch bodybuilder, but it is true that lifting heavier weights during your workout will actually build muscle subtly and solidly. Think back to when you do your normal workout I bet that you do lots of reps but stay low on the weights, right? So you might lift 8 lbs for squats or upper body while doing 15-20 reps. But I have news for you; it’s not going to do much for you. Of course, you might see some results at the beginning, especially if you have more fat on your body or you’re just starting out. But if you’re someone like me who doesn’t really need to lose weight but just needs to tone up, lose body fat or build muscle, then you need to step it up. Don’t be afraid of getting huge arms and thick legs, I can assure you it won’t work that way. In fact, you’re not going to get big at all, because building muscle is very hard to do.

If you want to have that hourglass figure and nice round booty, then start lifting heavier weights. Want to lose weight, too? Then combine lifting heavy with healthier, smarter cardio and a ‘good calorie’ diet. I’m up to 200 lbs on the leg press and I squat with 30 lbs weights each side. I haven’t gotten bulky at all! My legs are actually slimmer, as I’ve replaced the fat with muscle. You might be surprised to hear that fat takes up more room on your body than muscle, so replace the fat with muscle and your legs/body will be slimmer. It’s not rocket science, but it’s science all the same.

I know it’s hard to get your brain around the fact that lifting heavy will help you tone up and slim down, but bodybuilders themselves are on a whole different level which require completely exercises, regimes and diets and that’s something you just don’t have to worry about unless that’s the route you want to take. I’m still petite and little. I wear a XS in clothing, my waist is 25 inches and my hips are 34 inches. I haven’t gotten bigger, I’ve actually gotten smaller while building my booty and giving it a nice lift.

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Tip #4  Waste Your Waist

What I mean by this is to either lose inches around your waist, or to create the appearance of a smaller waist. This helps to give your body the curves you want. You do this by:

1. Eating healthily and tracking your food because nutrition counts for 80% of results when it comes to losing weight. If you work out but don’t eat well, then good luck with getting the body you want. OK, that might work when you’re 20 (it did for me!) but you’ve got think long-term.

2. Focusing on healthy cardio, but not too much. You will want to work out smarter by finding your natural fat burning zone. So many of us jump on a treadmill or take a workout class but don’t stay within our fat burning zone. Instead, we exceed the fat burning zone, which means you’re less likely to reach your goals. So get a heart rate monitor and start tracking your cardio more – this way you will be burning more fat.

An easy way to calculate it is to take 180 and then minus your age. This will be the likely top end of your heart rate For example, mine would be 141, so I don’t want to go over this number when doing cardio. Then take 141 and minus it by 20 that’s your low end. For me, this means I shouldn’t go below 121. So 121-141 is my natural fat burning zone.

Do this each year and the number will go down. When you start working out according to y our fat burning zone, you might not feel like you’re getting anywhere it might even feel easy! But this is where you have to get over the idea that working out more gives you better results. It doesn’t. Remember, work out smarter! I say this a lot because I’m trying to change the way you think about working out.

– Work out for 30-60 minutes, 4 times a week. Do this and you’ll start burning more fat which will help you to lose weight around your waist.
– Start lifting heavier weights so you can start building muscle and begin working on those curves.
– Work on your back muscles, in particular, as that will give you the V shape which can help accentuate a smaller waist. Do 3 sets of different back exercises and rows.
– Don’t forget your legs! If you’re losing fat, working on your leg muscles will help fill out your booty and give you that hour glass shape you’re looking for naturally.

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History of Stilettos

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History of Stilettos

Looking to be a femme fatale? Do you seek a simple way to spice up your sex life?

Invest in shoes. Not just any shoes, but one particular type of shoe.

You know the shoes I am talking about don’t you? Stilettoes of course.

The original, classic, sexy, erotic and sensual high heel.

A naughty girl’s life just wouldn’t be the same without them.

You can go from plain Jane to glamor gal instantly.

Just slip them on your feet and let your inner sex goddess awaken.

All women should have at least one pair of ultra-sexy high heeled shoes that say, “Come fuck me.”

If you don’t have a pair of these shoes, stop what you are doing and go buy a pair immediately.

You won’t be sorry.

A good pair of come fuck me shoes are irreplaceable when it comes to feeling sexy and powerful.

Indeed many a woman has used stilettoes to her advantage.

Sometimes to add to her height.

Sometimes, to enhance the appearance of her legs.

Sometimes because they just match her outfit.

However, whether they know it or not, whether they seek it or not, there is something about wearing these thin high heeled beauties that make a woman project sexiness and powerfulness.

Whether in the boardroom as an accessory to a business suit or in the bedroom all by themselves, stilettoes gives women that something extra at just the right moment.

Think of all the powerful females portrayed on screen.

What do most of them have on their feet?

Not bunny slippers that is for sure.

No, the answer is heels of some sort.

Boots, pumps, or strappy shoes, they all have one thing in common.

Stiletto heels.

Stilettos are glamorous, sexy and even a little dangerous.

Or so women who wear them would like men to believe.

Indeed, stilettos are strongly associated with the image of the femme fatale.

They are considered to be one of the most seductive items of clothing, and are often represented in popular culture.

Think of all the powerful women on film who have used stilettoes to enhance their sexuality, sensuality and power.

Anne Bancroft played a hot Mrs. Robinson to Dustin Hoffman and her crossed legs showing off her stilettoes only added to her seductiveness.

Lauren Bacall, Marilyn Monroe, Grace Kelly, Jane Mansfield, Elizabeth Taylor and many other Hollywood Bombshells all wore stilettoes faithfully both on screen an off.

Perhaps the most famous modern day woman to make stilettoes a household word is Sarah Jessica Parker.

Her love of shoes and all things high heeled in Sex in the City was a big part of the show and sometimes it seemed as if her stilettoes were the 5th character in the cast.

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High Heels and History

But, how did these eye catching, leg enhancing magic foot covers come to be?

What exactly are stilettos?

Where did stilettoes come from and why do we think they are so sexy? High heeled shoes in general have gone through several phases during the course of history.

First, they served as an item of high status that portrayed wealth.

Let’s face it; high heels are not very practical when it comes to plowing the field or scrubbing the floor.

Since upper class wealthy people didn’t partake in these lowly chores, they could wear high heels without ruining them and they could also afford them.

Lower class people often could not afford shoes at all not to mention shoes that were not practical for doing work.

However, as time went on high heels slowly became accepted by the lower class citizens of both sexes which led to them eventually becoming a female fashion item.

How did we go from high heels of yesteryear to the present day stilettos?

The truth is the road that led us to the one of a kind fashion revolution of Stiletto heels was not as smooth as some might think.

High heeled shoes in general have experienced many ebb and flow cycles as they have come in and gone out of fashion.

This started in mediaeval times and continues today.

Fashion changes on a regular basis and many times everything old is new again.

Interestingly enough of all the shoes throughout history the one that consistently managed to return to the top of the shoe popularity charts were the Stiletto heel.

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Not Your Average Glass Slipper

A stiletto heel is heel found on women’s boots and shoes.

It is long, thin and usually high.

The height of the heel usually ranges from 1 to 10 inches but the point or end of the heel that touches the ground is usually a half inch or smaller.

A real stiletto heel has stem of allow or solid steel but with mass production being what it is, there are many made of wood or other materials and covered with a hard outer layer.

If you think about what a stiletto looks like then it shouldn’t be a surprise to learn that the word stiletto means “long thin blade.” More specifically a stiletto is an Italian dagger.

Just the meaning of the word adds a certain element of sexy danger to the heels.

The first appearance of these thin high heeled women’s shoes can be traced to the late 19th and early 20th century.

This is illustrated in numerous fetish drawings of the period.

Courtesans wore them to be fashionable.

But over time stiletto heels became known more for their erotic nature than for their ability to increase height.

Some women started wearing them more as a symbol of sex and femininity.

Further evidence of their existence came in 1940s when photographers captured images of tall, thin heeled shoes deigned by famous French shoe designer Andre Perugia and worn by singer Parisian singer Mistinguett.

Fast forward to 1950s Italy where French fashion designer Rover Vivier gave is the design of the stiletto that we know today.

From his brilliance came the first stiletto shoes in the world.

It was goodbye to thick wooden heels, and hello to thin and long metal rods that allowed women to put more emphasis on their body line by raising the heel which had a very positive effect on changing the form of women’s bottoms, breasts and entire body line.

Not only was this controversial, stilettoes exploded onto the fashion scene and became an instant international hit. Women (and I am sure men) simply couldn’t get enough of them.

If you look at stilettos strictly as a fashion item, their popularity like all things fashion changed over time.

The first wave of fashion popularity in modern time was in the 1950s.

In the early 1960s they reached their most refined shape and the toes of the shoe were as slender and elongated as the stiletto heels themselves and stilettoes quickly slowly went out of style.

In 1974 the High Priest of Shoes, Manolo Blahnik launched his version of the stiletto on the world. Blahnik named his heel the Needle and they are perhaps his greatest fashion triumph.

Stilettos remained in regular use until 1990s and then, for a while business and college women mostly changed to high heeled shoes with blockier and larger heels (I don’t know what they were thinking either).

The exciting new is in the early years of 21st century stilettoes made yet another comeback as business environments changed, enabling women to wear stilettoes into their working environment and now even with casual wear.

Today women often go for the skinny jean-stiletto combination.

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Why Do We Love Them?

If we are going to be completely honest here we need to admit something a lot of women won’t say out loud: Stilettos can be very uncomfortable.

They can even hurt.

Here is another plain truth: we don’t care.

Millions of women across the globe are completely willing to accept paying the price of comfort in order to wear stilettoes.

Here is why:

A good pair of stilettos gives the optical illusion of a longer, slimmer leg, a smaller foot, and overall greater height.

Not only that, they change the wearer’s posture and gait, flexing the calf muscles and making the bust and buttocks more prominent. That’s right!

One pair of shoes can do all that.

Stilettoes force women to stand on their tiptoes just because of the design of the shoe.

Women wearing stilettos must also clench their calf muscles, and thrust their chest forward in order to balance.

Women are forced by stiletto circumstance to adopt this stance and it comes with the benefit of making them look sexy, dramatic and glamorous. Who wouldn’t love a shoe that could do all this?

Women, especially naughty women, are more than willing to sacrifice comfort to gain the incredible benefits that come with stilettoes.

They wear them loud and proud as they make their mark on the world as a femme fatale.

The good news for women who want to wear stilettoes today is that thanks to modern technology and things like comfort inserts and gel pads, wearing stilettos does not have to mean putting up with pain in order to put out sexiness.

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Stilettos as a Fetish

Fetishism is when a person becomes sexually aroused from a physical object, or from a specific situation.

The object or situation that causes the sexual arousal is called a fetish.

The most common and most commonly known fetish is a foot fetish and many times, shoes are included.

Foot and shoe fetishes also go way back in history.

One example is Roman Senator Lucius Vebilius.

Even when he was serving Caesar, he kept his mistresses shoe with him at all times.

Legend has it he hid it under his toga in order to be in close proximity to smell and caress the shoe.

It is probably one of the worst kept secrets in the kink world that stiletto heels are a common fetish item.

In fact, I don’t think anyone really tries to keep it a secret anymore.

But does the fetish lie with the foot or what it is encased in? Perhaps both?

Does it really matter when you are using stilettoes to get your groove on?

Remember the Sex in the City episode where Charlotte lets a shoe salesman who has a foot and shoe fetish assist her with trying on shoes in exchange for free or low cost designer shoes?

Or Chris Elliot trying to steal Mary’s shoes in the movie “There’s Something About Mary.”

All because he had a shoe fetish.

These are just two examples of how something so common has become part of pop culture.

What happens in our bedrooms is private.

Or at least it is supposed to be.

I have not had time to check Supreme Court rulings today.

Our boudoirs are meant to be our inner sanctuary used for sleep and sex.

Bringing sensuality, eroticism and playfulness into that room is an essential part of getting the most pleasure from our sexual selves.

Whether that means you are a dominatrix wearing thigh high boots with stiletto heels, classic pumps with steel heels or the stiletto high heeled slipper with feathers, any or all of these items in your closet or on your person helps create a chic boudoir that is inviting and daring.

If your partner has a foot or shoe fetish, owning these items will put you in the power seat when it comes to sex.

Many men with shoe fetishes have drank champagne out of a woman’s shoe in part to show his devotion to her.

The point is, when you open that door to your man’s desire you can have him at your sexual mercy.

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Make Every Step Count

While stilettoes are one of the most common sexual fetish items on the market, using them for sexual escapades doesn’t have to be limited to people with a fetish.

Any woman can use them to enhance sexuality, sensuality and increase the erotic potential in her relationship.

They can be the sexiest accessory.

Think of them as jewelry for the feet.

They make any lingerie look sexier. Or try wearing ONLY stilettoes.

Wear them out of the house with jeans.

You should enjoy every single moment of your stiletto experience.

Walking in stilettoes is an art form.

One that needs to be mastered so be sure to practice before you go public.

You will be amazed at how fast it comes and how in control you feel.

Let different aspects of your personality come out with each pair.

Always wanted to be a tigress or dominate your partner?

Then a pair of stiletto boots is a must.

Want to bring out your inner stripper or pole dancer?

Look for clear stilettoes with a sandal like top.

Feeling flirty or romantic?

Stiletto slippers are just the ticket.

As you wear each pair, your sexual confidence grows.

You feel sexy, you look sexy and you KNOW it.

Remember what you feel on the inside shows on the outside.

Remember that Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did except backwards and in high heels.

So don’t be afraid to be a naughty girl and take a high heeled step in the right direction to your inner sex goddess.

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History of Panties

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History of Panties

Most of us don’t give wearing panties a second thought.

Unless we go commando putting on a pair of panties is just part of our daily routine.

Whether you are in Australia or Great Britain and calling them “knickers” or in France calling them “lingerie.”

Which means “made from linen” wearing panties seems to be universal.

We don’t think about where they come from, how they evolved or how wearing them makes us feel.

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In the Beginning

However, truth be told, panties actually have a very interesting history.

If we go back to the beginning and look at the first people who walked upright we find both men and women wore some king of loincloth around their wastes.

This makes me wonder what made them decide to only cover their genitals as opposed to the rest of their bodies.

Is this the first example of guilt and shame about our bodies known to history?

If you are looking for the earliest known use of underwear that resembles modern panties you have to go back to 4,400 B.C.

Statuettes from Badari tombs depict triangle shaped small cloths that covered the front but had very little cloth around the hips.

Perhaps these were the Egyptian’s version of the thong?

For some unknown reason women went without anything under their skirts or dresses for a few centuries.

At least as far as we know.

Then in the 1400s women started to wear leggings under their skirts, most likely for warmth.

The leggings eventually morphed into loose fitting drawers or underpants.

Called “unmentionables” back in the day, these undergarments had cords to tie them around the waist.

Panties had nothing to do with sex at this point in history.

During the Renaissance Period panties were invented to help keep outer clothing clean but also to be used as a chastity device.

Saint-Laurent stated, “Panties were described at the time helping women keep clean and protecting them from the cold, they prevent the thighs being seen if they fall off a horse.

These drawers also protect them against adventurous young men, because if they slip their hands under their skirts they can’t touch their skin at all.”

Because panties came in direct contact with female genitalia there were considered the most risqu’ item of clothing.

Interestingly it was considered more immodest to wear underwear because they not only concealed the vagina; it was felt they drew attention to it.

One result of this is that during this time they were worn mostly by prostitutes.

Oh the irony!

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The 1800s

If we skip forward to the early 1800s women wore underwear called Pantaloons.

These reached to the knee or to the ankle due to modesty standards of the day and were often neutral flesh colored.

This period in history is called the Regency Period and even with the modestly standards pantaloons were daring compared to what was coming.

Enter the Victorian Era where table legs had to be referred to as “limbs” so it was less sexually suggestive.

The underwear women wore during this period were referred to as drawers and the most popular form was the Union Suit which covered a woman from neck to ankle and to her wrist.

Usually made from wool or muslin women wore these long johns long before they became popular with men on a cold winter day.

During the Victorian Era, sexuality, in particular women’s sexuality was intentionally repressed and that is certainly evident in the uncomfortable, often hot underwear of the time.

Not only were they uncomfortable but can you imagine how difficult it must have been to get undressed to have sex?

Luckily for women Elizabeth Smith Miller came along in the 1890s and had the brilliant idea to invent bloomers.

Bloomers were loose fitting undergarments and got their name because they were made popular by Amelia Bloomer.

Women wanted less restrictive clothing and bloomers were loose fitting.

These were usually made from cotton or linen.

The word “panties” was first used in the early 19th century because the under garments women wore consisted of two separate legs joined at the waist.

Although they were open between the legs.

For those women not adhering to the strict Victorian standards of the day, panties began to go from plain to fancy.

Lace and colored material found their way to panty development which is really the first examples of what has led to the variety of panties we see today.

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20th century

Several exciting things happened with panties in the 20th century that started the roller coaster ride to sexiness that they are today.

Panties closed between the legs replaced the open panties of the 1800s.

Rayon was made to make panties for the first time in 1910. Shortly after that they were made from nylon.

By far one of the most important eras for panties was the Roaring Twenties.

The 1920s was a time of great change in the world.

There was a great desire to become more modern and break with traditions.

This carried over into fashion including panties.

They were shorter, down to the mid-calf.

Flappers needed panties loose at the legs.

These were called Step-ins and were usually white.

As skirts shortened so did undergarments.

We can all give a big shout out to the French Can-Can dancers who, in the 1930s did away with the long style of underwear all together.

Those long pant legs just didn’t work with the sexy short dresses the dancers wore, not to mention the high kicks while holding their skirts up.

However, they still wanted to protect their modesty so they simply cut off the long legs of underwear and came up with French Knickers.

This caused quite an uproar as their thighs could be seen.

They started quite a trend and soon French Knickers made of silk popped up in stores.

French Knickers were truly one of the first sexiest pieces of lingerie to hit the planet.

They are still sexy today and just wearing them and feeling the silk against your skin makes a woman feel incredibly sensual.

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Cruising Through the 20th Century

Still outside the world of burlesque women’s panties were something that were not supposed to be seen. Women were supposed to keep them hidden.

Two of the most controversial yet important moments in moving panties forward were at the 1949 Wimbledon Tennis Championships when tennis player Gertrude Moran wore a ruffled pair of lace trimmed knickers under a short tennis dress and caused quite a stir making headlines around the world and when in 1955 film icon Marilyn Monroe revealed her panties in what is perhaps the most famous scene in a movie: the subway grate draft blowing up her skirt in The Seven Year Itch.

The wheel of time kept on turning and the 1960s brought us hip-huggers and bikini panties just in time for the sexual revolution.

This was followed by the G-string rising to popularity in the 1980s and then the thong in the 1990s.

Today we have a plethora of panty styles. Boy shorts, briefs, hipsters, classic, and tanga are just a few of the styles offered today.

Some interesting things happened along the way in the latter half of the 20th century.

Society started to change their views on sex and the female body.

As this changed, so did women’s underwear.

Lingerie became its own fashion statement as seen in Sex in the City where Carrie wears bras and panties dark in color through sheer light colored clothing.

Today, stores like Fredericks of Hollywood and Victoria’s Secret market underwear specifically for sex.

Their products stress the beauty of the female body and encourage women to wear sexy lingerie for themselves and for their partners.

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We’ve Come a Long Way Baby

Where once underwear was meant to be a hidden never discussed secret, it is now shown outright as evidenced by the hip level pants with thongs sticking out in the back.

Lingerie has helped women reclaim their sexuality.

They are no longer forced to be restricted and instead can feel confident with their sexuality.

There are stores that cater to every type of lingerie you can imagine.

Whatever your style, there is a shop that provides it, including fetish wear.

If you have not checked out a lingerie store I strongly suggest making a date with yourself to do so.

If you have not worn lingerie for yourself or your partner, you have been cheating yourself and your sex life.

Panties can be a great place to start when considering lingerie.

There are so many styles and colors to choose from you will absolutely find what fits your style or even find something racy that you want to take a risk with.

No one knows what panties a woman has on underneath her clothes and it can make for a hot surprise when your lover takes off your pants and finds something unexpected in the panty department.

Word to the wise, if you wear your panties with a garter belt and stockings put the panties on over the garters.

This allows him to take off your panties but keep on your stockings and garter belt which is really sexy!

If you want to try something new to make you feel confident and sexy there is no better investment than lingerie.

The right pair of panties can put the Va Va Voom back into a relationship, make the most of your assets and actually transform a woman from simple to sexy.

That is empowering.

Trust me when I say there are few things sexier and more pleasurable than having a man slowly pull off your sexy pair of panties.

Except perhaps having him practically rip them off!

Some men like the plain white cotton “good girl” panties and some like the fetish wear panties made of out latex, rubber or some other alternative material.

But basically men just like panties.

They like to see you in them and then they like to take them off of you and get to what is underneath.

Thank Goodness we live in an age where we can express our individuality and sexuality through the panties we wear!

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Kinky Travel Spots for Swingers

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The kinky travel spots
where swingers go to get it on

By: New York Post

The French are famously frisky. Carnality is so embedded in the culture that affairs are almost de rigueur for politicians (start your engine, Le Pen). The country’s awash in swing clubs, parties, and resorts. There’s even a town called Cap d’Agde, where wearing clothing is frowned upon.

So France is a fitting place for swinging couple Bruno and Sandra Mazaferro to open a campsite for swingers — the country’s third such location, according to the Connexion.

At the randy retreat, Le Diamant Noir, naughty games and “muscle awareness water aerobics” get juices flowing. Nightly parties take place where underwear is deemed optional and cuddle corners attract lovers of the great outdoors as well as other people’s spouses. There are “Eyes Wide Shut” bashes and plenty of opportunities for sexual mingling.

As Bruno told the Daily Mail, the point of his operation is to make swinging vacations accessible to everyone (Cap d’Agde and its ilk can get expensive). Hence, day passes are available, overnight stays start at $32 and you can rent a camper or bring a tent.

France isn’t the only option for couples who want to get it on during their getaway. At La Mirage Swingers Complex in Spain, condoms get handed out as freely as pillow mints. Copacabana Hotel & Suites in Costa Rica has two pools — one clothing-optional, the other mandatorily nude — and theme nights with names like Wet and Wild. Guests at Desire Resort & Spa, in Mexico, have been known to make sexy time in the nudity-preferred nightclub.

What is it like to actually indulge in a swinger’s vacation? According to a blogger who writes under the name LadyDeeNSarge, it’s anything but boring: “Nightly booty showcases — aka theme nights — are truly ‘pleasure-able’ events. Lingerie, masks, feathers, body stockings, leather — whatever the theme is for the night, you can bet its [sic] gonna be HOT hot HOT. I’m ready to participate, goodbye inhibitions, hello inner freak!”

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Alison Rubke’s Interview

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What do you find naughty about LA?I think the people of LA are what make it sexy; it’s a perpetually sunny place, so everyone wants to look their best showing their golden skin and toned bodies. Of course our city is also filled with the most beautiful cars and restaurants with wonderful ambience. As for being naughty, LA has a lot of personality as well as its Hollywood history, so nearly every part of town has a bit of scandal attached to it. The city has a long reputation for being a large contributor to the adult entertainment industry, and where else can you find Hugh Hefner’s mansion and a Hustler store just a few miles apart?

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAWhere’s your favorite place to go in LA when you want to feel sexy?

It’s easiest to feel sexy at night, so I particularly like places that have glowing candlelight and that aren’t crazy crowded either. That being said, my husband and I like to enjoy an amazing meal in a beautiful restaurant for our date nights, and I definitely feel my sexiest then! We are frequently at Mastro’s Steakhouse, so that’s been our go-to sexy spot for a few years now.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAHow did you get into the lingerie business?

Opening a lingerie boutique was actually my mom’s idea! We wanted to open a retail store together, and came to the conclusion that no one was selling the specialty, high-end brands we were seeing in European fashion magazines. I was working as a CPA as a tax analyst at the time, and simply quit my job to learn the lingerie industry. I really knew nothing about it at first, but quickly found my way to the best brands during trips to NYC and Paris!

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAWho’s your favorite lingerie designer and why?

That’s almost an impossible question! Let’s just say, my favorite to brand to wear everyday is Stella McCartney, Marlies Dekkers and Natori because they are comfortable, stylish and easy to wear with almost anything. My favorite for special occasions and her overall ability to create the most fantastic collections is Chantal Thomass. Granted, they only sell her really fun stuff in Paris, but it’s still so fun to see what’s new each season. And lastly, my favorite simply because her work is so beautifully handmade, is Carine Gilson. When you wear Carine Gilson on a daily basis, you know you’ve made it!

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAWhat is it about lingerie that makes women feel so sexy?

For me, knowing you can indulge in something so beautiful that perhaps only you will know you are wearing…that indulgence makes me feel amazing. Also, if you’re serious about wearing a stylish wardrobe, why not have every detail just right? I think lingerie generally makes women feel sexy because it accentuates what you want it to; it puts your breasts in just the right place, and a cute panty will frame your derriere just right. Some people aren’t comfortable with full nudity, so lingerie gives you the ability to show plenty of skin without feeling too vulnerable.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAYou had a gorgeous lingerie store and have a beautiful house,
any decorating tips for making your home more sexy?

Thank you! I think warm accessories like throw blankets, candles and pillows always add a sexy touch. Also, I’m very into fresh flowers being in my home year-round. It’s little indulgences like that that make me feel good. But if you ask anyone, it’s the lighting in a home that makes a huge difference impacting the mood.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LATell us how you transitioned from lingerie store owner to social media consultant.

Transitioning to social media consultant was just a natural transition from what I was already doing for my former business. I found that my favorite part of owning a boutique was the creative end which involved Instagram photography and connecting with other talented people on social media. Once I sold my business, I continued doing social media for the new owner as a month-to-month paid consultant, and that’s when I realized I could do this for other people as well! Many of my first clients were lingerie industry professionals who I knew through my boutique, and they were eager for me to expand word-of-mouth for their businesses just as I had for mine! I’m so grateful owning my shop led me to where I am today.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAYour instagram page is pretty amazing with photos all over LA,
how do you discover all those places?

Thank you! I crave discovering something new all of the time, and just enjoy exploring the city. Through social media I discover so many places and events that are happening in the city, so that certainly helps. I also follow a wonderful group of creative people who are always sharing places that inspire them. But overall, I enjoy driving all over the place and familiarizing myself with all corners of LA. I eat out a lot, which helps make the discovery process a lot easier too.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAWhat’s the sexiest place you’ve taken photos of in LA?

Definitely the naughtiest place was my visit to Pleasure Chest and the Hustler store! But honestly those places aren’t very sexy to me, just sexual. So probably the sexiest place I have gone to several times and photographed is the Hotel Bel-Air (I even got married there!). There’s also one restaurant I went to years ago and have yet to photograph that struck me as sexy, which is La Boheme on Santa Monica Boulevard.

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@alisonrubke Social Media Interview | Naughty LAYou take photos for Naughty LA’s instagram page,
how is taking photos for my business different from others you work with?

  You are definitely the only client that prefers to share all of the sexy things that surround us in LA. Many other clients want product shots or photographs that are the farthest thing from sexy or naughty! Working with you is fun because it has really opened my eyes to all of the cheeky things that we are exposed to everyday.

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