Setting Boundaries for Dating

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Setting Boundaries for Dating

If you have a history of failed relationships or you just don’t think you’re ‘good’ at dating, then it’s time to re-examine your dating habits to see if there are any behavioral patterns you can change. Too many men just go through the motions when they’re dating – go to a bar/restaurant, pay for dinner, laugh at her jokes, maybe have sex later and then, bam, you’re “in a relationship,” but it’s a relationship which is going to go nowhere because neither of you have really taken the time to see if you’re actually compatible. So you need to take more care and time over the way you date, and that means setting boundaries.

Know what you want

Knowing what you don’t want from a date is just as important as knowing what you do want. If you’re just after a booty call, be clear about this from the outset so your date doesn’t get offended later on (yes, there are plenty of girls who are just out for sex, too, you just have to both say so.) If you’re just out to have some fun and not get serious, make sure your date knows this. Equally, if you’re after something more long term, then that’s going to affect how strong you want to come on during the date. Know your limits – and feel out hers – and the rest should follow naturally.

Don’t waste time

In most dating scenarios, the onus is on the guy to be polite, charming and gentlemanly, even if that means spending time with someone you realize you don’t like. But this is just a waste of time, for both of you. It’s quite common for that initial attraction you felt for someone to wear off as you get to know them. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with her, you’re just not as compatible as you thought you were, it’s nobody’s fault. But you’re not doing either of you any favors by dragging the date out all night. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with cutting the evening short and explaining that, even though she’s a great person, you’re just not ‘feeling it.’ She’ll actually respect you more (eventually!) for being honest with her. Life’s too short to waste time on dates that are going nowhere, so cut to the chase and end the evening maturely and respectfully.

Don’t be afraid to speak your mind

Many men feel like they have to act the perfect gentleman on a date, regardless of how their date is behaving towards them. For instance, as stunning and sexy as your date might be, you really don’t like the fact that she’s spent all evening discussing ex-boyfriends, or talking about herself. She hasn’t asked a single question about you, but you feel you should just be grateful that she’s there with you at all. But a confident man knows the value of time, and he shouldn’t be wasting it on a date who doesn’t have the decency to show the same respect you’re showing to her, and it really is OK to say so. Perhaps she’s spent the date checking her phone every five minutes, or she doesn’t look you in the eye when she talks to you. Maybe she’s even checking out other guys as they enter the bar or restaurant you’re in. Whatever the issue, you need to speak up and tell her. At the very least, you’re showing her you’re confident enough in your own skin not to put up with her behavior, and it will also show how much you respect yourself. Women like men who know what they want, so even though you might think you’re doing the polite thing by letting her be selfish and indulgent during your date, all it’s really saying is “I’m not strong enough to stand up for myself” and that’s not sexy.

For more information on how to set boundaries for dating, check out my Dating Coaching Program today.

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Befriend Your Body

You might think that only women get obsessed about how they look on the outside, that vanity is something that just doesn’t exist in your own DNA.

But modern society is so image-obsessed that more and more men are feeling the pressure to look or behave a certain way.

As a result, you’re becoming insecure and losing confidence, based solely on how you feel about your body.

Welcome to our world!

Of course, such superficialities shouldn’t matter, but it’s still a good idea to take care of yourself and treat your body with the respect it deserves.

Having a positive self body image boosts your self esteem and makes you more attractive to potential partners.

It’s not about changing into someone you’re not, it’s about enhancing and improving what you already have.

Don’t fall into the image trap

Movies, magazines, billboards etc are constantly bombarding us with images of how the ‘perfect man’ should look.

Rippling muscles, shiny teeth, piercing eyes and expensive clothes, it’s as though no woman is going to look twice at you if you don’t look like Brad Pitt.

But there’s no such thing as perfect. In fact, women are more likely to go for a guy who recognizes his flaws and embraces them.

That’s not to say there aren’t things you can improve upon, like losing a few pounds, keeping yourself groomed and eating well, but trying to become something you’re not is only going to make you feel worse because your goals are unattainable.

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Adopt a realistic exercise routine

Everyone should exercise as part of their daily routine.

I don’t mean forcing yourself to go through grueling workouts in the gym – the gym isn’t for everyone – I just mean small, realistic bursts of movement like walking to work instead of driving, using your lunch break for a stroll around the park or maybe joining an evening dance or yoga class.

Exercise releases feelgood chemicals into our brains and bodies which helps with confidence.

You’ll also get into shape so the physical difference on the outside is going to boost your self esteem even further.

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Know the importance of diet

We really are what we eat, so think about what you’re putting into your body.

No amount of exercise is going to matter if you’re just going to get home from your power walk and chow down on a cheeseburger.

We eat far too much processed junk and refined sugar, so start stocking up on superfoods likes green vegetables, fresh fruit and lean meats like chicken and turkey.

Try coming off bread for just one week and notice how much lighter you feel. You don’t have to be a chef to cook delicious, simple food.

Your diet is directly linked to how energized you are and, consequently, how good you feel about yourself.

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Appearances matter

It’s true that beauty is only skin deep, but it’s still a fact that first impressions count.

Even if it’s just for yourself, looking good makes you feel good, and vice versa, so don’t underestimate the power of good grooming and a stylish closet.

Keep your clothes up to date and throw out anything with holes or you haven’t worn in a while.

Go a little ‘metro’ and invest in some male skincare products and see how much better your skin feels.

Sure, women love masculine men, but we also love to touch – and kiss – soft skin.

Stay trim and clean around your genitals, too, so you’re always prepared for some naughty action.

No woman likes to go down on a guy with a huge bush around his cock, and keeping hair short makes your penis look even bigger.

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Naughty San Diego Book Launch

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Naughty Guide to San Diego Book Launch

By: Sienna Sinclaire

My “Naughty Guide to San Diego” was released earlier this year, 2017, as an ebook. I decided to have a book launch party for it in San Diego. I didn’t know anyone in LA so I invited people from my Naughty LA group in LA, along with posting on other meetups in San Diego to get people to come out.

I had a great turn out of about 50 people. The book launch party took place at Bar 207 inside the Hard Rock Hotel. I had a huge VIP area where guests received free drinks, free Naughty LA tote bag along with my Las Vegas and San Diego books.

I decided to wear my showgirl costume, from my Las Vegas book launch. And glad I did as it was a big hit! We had a great crowd of people show up with tons of beautiful women.

The venue was perfect and everyone had an amazing time. To find out when my next book launch party will be for upcoming books, make sure to signup for my newsletter.

 

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Free and Naughty in Los Angeles 

 

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Free Naughty Things To Do in LA

There’s always something exciting and risqué happening in the City of Angels.

There is a provocative and seductive quality that feels woven into the fabric of the city itself, something scandalous underneath the sunshine and flowers, the glitz and glamour.

Fortunately, for locals and visitors looking to experience the naughtier side of the city, you don’t have to look too far.

There are a remarkable amount of fun and naughty things to do that are absolutely free!

Outlined below are a few ideas and places to help you start exploring what Naughty Los Angeles has to offer.

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The Getty Museums

www.getty.edu 
www.getty.edu/visit/villa/ 

Do you think that art and culture aren’t particularly naughty? Well, think again.

Check out the legendary J. Paul Getty Museum or the Getty Villa in Malibu and you’ll find a titillating variety of interesting erotic art from around the world, dating back through the centuries.

The Getty and it’s sister in Malibu are two of LA’s most beautiful and celebrated museums and the perfect places to spend a day exploring with a date. It’s easy to turn the day into an erotic, cultural adventure by making it fun and seeing how many naughty pieces of art you can find.

Trust me.

You’ll be generously surprised!

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Pleasure Chest – Free Sex Classes

www.pleasurechest.com 

After spending a day at the museum, you may be inspired to continue your higher education by attending a sex workshop or class at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood.

Totally free and devoted to a variety of topics designed to expand and enhance your proficiency and knowledge in the bedroom, classes are usually held every Wednesday night in a private area of the store.

It’s a very casual and relaxed environment and the instructors are good at making naughty subjects like oral sex and BDSM a lot of fun.

A great place to come with your partner or simply check out on your own.

You’ll even get discounts on sex toys after class!

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No Pants Metro Ride

www.improveverwhere.com

Usually held in January, the No Pants Metro Ride is an event that takes place across multiple cities throughout the world, including LA.

Subway riders everywhere strip down to their underwear and take to the subways in the spirit of naughty solidarity and good times.

What began as a prank by seven members of the Improv Everywhere group in NYC has become an event that thousands of people from around the world participate in.

We happen to be lucky in Los Angeles since our winters are rather mild and riding the metro in your underwear isn’t as chilly or even absolutely freezing like Chicago or New York!

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World Naked Bike Ride

www.worldnakedbikeride.org

The World Naked Bike Ride is a similar, annually held event that always draws a large crowd in Los Angeles.

The number of bicyclists and bike enthusiasts has grown in the city over the years and this is a great way for those in the biking community to come together.

While total nudity is not a requirement, but certainly not frowned upon, many use body paint or other creative ways of expressing themselves through costume or turning their bikes into rolling pieces of art.

Is there a naughtier way to experience the city than riding a bike through the streets completely naked with a thousand of your friends?

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Porn Star Walk of Fame

The Hustler Store @ 6540 Hollywood Blvd.
Studs Movie Theater @ 7734 Santa Monica Blvd.

Almost everyone is familiar with the world famous Hollywood Walk of Fame and the celebrity handprints of the stars in front of Grauman’s Chinese Theater on Hollywood Blvd.

But did you know that there are actually two Porn Blocks of Fame in Los Angeles, too?

Check out the handprints of adult film legends like Jenna Jameson, Marylyn Chambers and Ron Jeremy in front of the Hustler store before doing a little naughty shopping inside.

Near the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood at the Studs Theater is where you can find the other one.

Here you can see the handprints of porn legends John C. Holmes and Georgina, among others.

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Porn Star Karoake Tuesday’s

www.sardosbar.com

Another great event to catch happens every Tuesday night at Sardo’s Grill and Lounge in Burbank, where members of the adult industry get together for a very special night called Porn Star Karaoke.

This event is always a lot of fun and a great place to hang out and mingle with real porn stars and others involved in the business of all things naughty.

This is a great venue to go to with a group of friends for drinks.

It usually draws a big crowd so be sure to get there early to grab a seat and sign up if you want to sing!

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Drag Queen Bingo

www.hamburgermarys.com

Hamburger Mary’s is a restaurant located in the heart of West Hollywood and a neighborhood favorite.

It’s also a great venue for free entertainment which include fabulous drag shows and performers, karaoke nights and a fantastic bingo night that’s not to be missed!

This is a great place to hang out with a group of friends and take in the festivities.

A relaxed and friendly atmosphere makes it a welcome destination for both gay and straight couples who are looking for a fun and naughty evening of delicious entertainment and celebration.

Be sure to check the website for their upcoming calendar of events.

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Burlesque at The Edison

www.edisondowntown.com

Located downtown, The Edison is one of LA’s sexiest and unique night spots.

Chic and sexy, the atmosphere presents itself as an interesting intersection of the city’s sultry past and it’s innovative future.

It’s a swirling homage to both art and science, demonstrated by their attention to craft and detail in their signature cocktails.

But, it’s also a great venue to catch one of the hottest burlesque shows in town.

There’s always hot entertainment happening at the Edison, which also hosts amazing live jazz and aerialist performances.

It’s the perfect place to bring a date for a hot and naughty night on the town.

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Swinger Events at Plush

www.plushparties.net

For the more adventurous naughty enthusiast, I recommend checking to see if there are any free swinger events in the area being hosted by Plush, a fantastic party and event group that hosts some of the most lavish and naughty parties in town.

Sometimes, there are free events available.

Simply go to their website and signup for their newsletter.

Their free events can be their mixers, or if you’re a member and you’ve attended some of their events, they offer a free events to current members.

Plush parties are perfect for beginning couples who are curious about the Lifestyle or for those already well acquainted, and also a great forum for meeting other like-minded people in the area.

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Naughty LA Parties

www.naughtylosangeles.com
www.meetup.com

Be sure and check out what’s happening under the Calendar section of my website along with joining my meetup group.

This will give you more information on events that I personally host and some of these events are totally free!

I hold mixers at sexy hotels and bars in Los Angeles and these can be a great opportunity to meet like-minded and fun people.

Other events I host might include burlesque shows or sex classes.

I’m always changing to keep things fresh and exciting!

I also host exciting private parties at various locations around Los Angeles, but these events are not free.

Be sure to sign up for my newsletter and link to my Meetup Group so you can stay up to date.

Stay naughty!

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The Parlour Room of Hollywood

www.vintagebargroup.com

Tucked away off of Yucca Avenue in the heart of Hollywood, this unassuming bar looks like a complete dive from the outside, but inside it reveals itself as a swank and chic throwback to the glitzy and smoky era of Hollywood’s seductive past.

Every Thursday night, the bad girls of Dollhouse Entertainment put on one of the sexiest and naughtiest burlesque shows in town.

The best thing is that its absolutely free! Perfect for a date or a midnight soiree with friends, Thursday nights at the Parlour Room are a perfect bet for a truly naughty night on the town.

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Room Service 360 Drag Show

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Aptly billing itself as a “five-star drag show in a five-star venue”, Room Service 360 brings its unique blend of cabaret, burlesque and drag performance to the chic Riviera 31 club located in the posh Sofitel Hotel of Beverly Hills.

With song, live percussion and stunning dance perfected with a whole lot of sass and fabulous music, Room Service 360 is a must-see performance set inside a luxurious setting of elegance and sophistication.

This is definitely a show thats not to be missed and a fantastic destination for a date which aims to satisfy both fun and class.

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Riviera 31

www.esterelrestaurant.com

Saturday nights at the Riviera 31 are definitely a hot place to be and the perfect location to catch one of LA’s best and sinfully naughty burlesque shows.

Inspired by the sultry French Riviera and featuring a decadent menu of Mediterranean cuisine and sparkling cocktails, its a wonderful venue for a romantic evening for two and the perfect setting to get lost in the mysterious atmosphere and electricity of a wild night of sexy burlesque done right.

Riviera 31 is an absolute must-have on anyone’s list of fabulous and free events in the city.

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Britannia Burlesque by the Doll Face Dames

www.thedollfacedames.com

The sexy and naughty Dollface Dames invade Third Street Promenade at the Britannia Pub every Monday night.

A relaxed and casual Brit pub makes for a great place to catch one of the Doll’s legendary burlesque performances.

With three shows per night starting at ten o’clock, the Dames put on a theatrical and seductively fun show that leaves audiences always demanding more!

Great for a group of friends as you’re out exploring Santa Monica for a night, or perfect for a casual date, the Britannia Burlesque is classic, naughty British themed fun.

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Red Light Burlesque at the Townhouse

www.townhousevenice.com

The sexy and naughty Dollface Dames invade Third Street Promenade at the Britannia Pub every Monday night.

Step into another era at the Red Light Burlesque show held downstairs in the Del Monte speakeasy at Venice’s legendary Townhouse bar.

Featuring the notorious Bootleg Bombshells who offer a dazzling array of cabaret style burlesque, aerial and performance art, the Red Light Burlesque is every Wednesday night at eleven-thirty and absolutely free!

Perhaps the ultimate location for such a show, this speakeasy was once home to a well-known bootlegging operation during the Twenties and the history of the bar is rich with mystery and danger.

A stones throw away from the beach, its the perfect show to catch after a long day of surfing waves and hanging out in bustling Venice.

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Naughty Walking Tour San Diego

 

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Naughty Walking Tour San Diego

By: Sienna Sinclaire

I offered a free naughty walking tour in the Gaslamp District of San Diego for my Naughty Guide to San Diego book launch. I headed to San Diego for the weekend where I stayed at the Hard Rock hotel, right outside of the Gaslamp sign, making easy to get to my tour.

The tour was on Saturday at 1pm. There were about 25 people who showed up to attend my walking tour. The tour lasted over an hour, where we walked about 15 blocks total.

I took people back to the late 1800s of San Diego’s naughty side. I wore a saloon girl dress of the 1800s. I showed guests old brothels in the heart of San Diego. After the tour, we ended up at an old brothel where we mingled over drinks.

But I couldn’t stay too long, as I had my Book Launch Party later that night that I needed to attend too along with changing into my showgirl outfit.

 

 

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Channel Your Inner Courtesan

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Channel Your Inner Courtesan

They are the legendary women standing behind every great man of history.

From Napoleon’s Josephine and Louis XV’s Madame du Barry, to Charles II’s Nell Gwynne and Wyatt Earp’s Shady Sadie, courtesans have spearheaded many a sexual revolution and were often some of the most educated and entertaining women of their day.

Courtesans may have provided sex for the various men in their lives, but these women were not ‘just’ prostitutes – their duties went much deeper.

A good courtesan would be knowledgable about the world (often self-educated,) and be able to hold conversations about politics, economics, history and art.

They were funny, witty, sharp and confident and, above all, they would have brilliant business minds and be able to read men like books.

Courtesans were in control of their own fates and, to this day, they are considered some of the cleverest women in history.

I’ve taken some of the most renowned courtesans throughout history and used their stories to show how you can channel their talents to help boost your self-confidence, make you eminently dateable and transform you into a tigress in the bedroom.

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The Confident Courtesan

Nell Gwynne (1650-1687)

The mistress of England’s King Charles II, Nell is famous for her rags-to-riches story.

So, if you’re lacking in self-confidence, the tale of a humble girl from a poor part of London who rose to become a respected and much-loved courtesan and companion of the country’s monarch, should be an inspiration.

Nell’s father died when she was young and her mother was an alcoholic who ran a brothel, so the odds of Nell amounting to anything at all were slim.

Employed by one of her prostitute friends, Orange Moll, to sell fruit at the King’s theater during performances, the attractive Nell was soon drafted into the theater’s acting troupe at aged 15.

With training and networking among London’s high-society thespian set, Nell turned into a confident young performer and she proved to be a natural upon the stage.

Not only that, but she began to attract the sexual attentions of her rich and connected audience.

Prior to meeting Charles II, Nell was the mistress of numerous nobles, intellectuals and actors.

Her ‘procurer’ was the Duke of Buckingham, who regularly set her up with wealthy clients.

As her confidence grew, Nell quickly learned how to please a man and also was unafraid to ask for what she wanted – very courageous for a young girl from the poverty classes in 17th century London!

When the King eventually noticed her, Nell even had the cheek to demand 500 a year (around $30,000 today) to ‘be kept’ as his mistress. The King refused, but Nell’s confidence intrigued him.

At last, the two became lovers and together they had two children, both recognized by the Crown.

Nell had to battle many other mistresses for control of the King’s bedchamber, including the famous Barbara Palmer, who herself had five children by Charles, but Nell’s sharp wit, supreme confidence and irascible sense of humor always proved irresistible to the King who, on his deathbed, famously asked “let not poor Nelly starve.”

By channeling Nell Gwynne, you’ll be inspired to stand up and be proud of who you are.

It doesn’t matter what class you are, how much money you have or what parts of your body you hate.

Treat the whole world as a stage and decide which character you want to be, then become her.

Confidence has no boundaries or prejudice, but it’s something everybody notices, especially men. So forget what others do or say and just think “if Nell could do it, then so can I.”

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The Sexual Courtesan

Theodora (c.500-550)

The only woman to go from courtesan to saint, Theodora was a high-class prostitute in Byzantium (modern day Turkey) who was said to be “superior in intelligence to any man.”

Although raised in the poor classes, Theodora was charismatic, beautiful and self-educated.

Becoming a prostitute at a young age, she was quick to realize that a woman who could command sexual respect could also command personal respect.

She made it her business to know how to read men and went out of her way to satisfy them sexually knowing that, if her client was happy, then she would be amply rewarded financially.

Theodora was so admired she soon drew the attentions of Emperor Justinian, who marveled at her sexual prowess and was determined that no other man would experience the pleasure Theodora gave him- so he married her.

Now the Empress, Theodora was now one of the most powerful women in the Empire, although this did not stop her from learning new sexual techniques to use on her husband – she was streetwise enough to know that she could easily be replaced should the Emperor’s lust wane.

Theodora also used her sexual power to persuade her husband to let her become involved in the politics of the day.

Her extraordinary influence over him meant she was able to convince Justinian to legalize consensual prostitution, expand the rape law to include low-class women and prostitutes, and to outlaw brothels which employed slaves.

In other words, Theodora fought for the rights of women to sell sex with their full consent, but also to protect others who were being forced into prostitution by their pimps.

Other reforms that Theodora influenced included separate prisons for women (with nuns as guards,) founding a ‘retirement home’ for former prositutes where they could live out their remaining days in peace and safety and, her most important leacy, convincing Byzantine society that women should have the same sexual freedom as men.

In a world where women were treated like second class citizens (or worse) and sex was about the pleasure and fulfillment of men, Theodora was a torch-bearer for the sexual rights of women.

Not just that, but she was insistent that women should enjoy sex as much as men, that they had a right to sexual pleasure and shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what they wanted.

Using Theodora as inspiration, you will discover hidden sexual strengths you never knew you had.

If you can imagine all the obstacles she had to overcome nearly 2,000 years ago in a completely male-dominated society, to fight for women’s rights, then the fences you have to jump today are bound to feel tiny in comparison.

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The Datebale Courtesan

Veronica Franco (1546-1591)

Possibly the most famous courtesan of all time, Veronica Franco learned the art of seduction at a young age as her own mother was a high-class “onesta” (Italian courtesan.)

After a failed marriage in her teenage years, to a wealthy Venetian merchant, Veronica began targeting other rich businessman, nobles and royals, and educated herself to such a high level she was able to out-debate many of her suitors and clients. She also wrote poetry and fought for women’s rights.

The reason Veronica Franco makes the ideal courtesan to channel when it comes to dating, is that she was an expert in making men feel at ease and drawing them to her confident aura.

She wasn’t only beautiful, she was super-aware of what men wanted and how to give it to them.

She knew that listening was one of the most valuable skills she had, and she was adept at flattery, charm and massaging the egos of nobles, princes and kings who needed to hear how great they were! Veronica wasn’t just a high-class prostitute or escort, she was a much-valued companion to many men and, when she was arrested for witchcraft by the Catholic Inquisition (many courtesans were accused of the crime,) Veronica gained a rare pardon thanks to the intervention of numerous well-connected clients who spoke on her behalf.

By channeling Veronica Franco, you can learn how to behave confidently and comfortably around men you’ve only just met, and make them want to be around you.

Possessing the same aura of calm, being knowledgeable about different subjects and encouraging your date to ask questions and engage in varied conversation, will not only boost his ego, it can do wonders for your own.

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How To Get Curves Naturally

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How To Get Curves Naturally

You know how it is; slim, willowy women want to be curvy and curvy women want to be slim and willowy. The grass is always greener, right? But here’s the thing. Whatever you aspire to, it takes work. Those with a little extra weight know that they have to make lifestyle changes in order to achieve the slim shape they desire. Similarly, women who crave more curves must realize that curves don’t just appear overnight, you have to work for them. So instead of looking up your nearest plastic surgeon or paying for other procedures like liposuction and butt implants, try exploring all the natural ways you can get the hourglass figure you’re after. What’s more, you’ll also be helping to get rid of cellulite, dimples and dull skin…simply by working out.

I’ve teamed up with my own personal trainer, Shawn, to share some easy, effective tips to help women who want to rediscover their curves. Shawn has helped me totally transform my body, as well as reconfigure my mindset, so that working out is no longer a chore, it’s something which invigorates and inspires me.

Last year, I’ll admit I was struggling a little. I may have been only 38 and had always been in good shape or so I thought – but nature has a way of creeping up on you when you’re not looking and suddenly all my old habits were beginning to blow back on me. Whereas before I could eat fast food, enjoy a drink and barely exercise yet still stay slim, now I was starting to see differences in how my body was reacting to that lifestyle dimples, a little cellulite, more tiredness and lack of energy etc and, despite a year-long fitness and nutrition regime to try and combat what was happening, nothing was working. I hit a slump; together with the dimples and cellulite I was also getting a bit of a belly and my bum had started to sag. Most people probably never noticed, but I did, and we all know that things like self-confidence comes from within. If something matters to you, then it’s important, regardless of what others may or may not think.

I didn’t want to use ‘natural ageing’ as an excuse for letting myself go, so I decided to look for a trainer and nutritionist who could really help me get back to where I needed to be. I came across Shawn last year and I couldn’t believe my luck when I found out he was a personal trainer, nutritionist and holistic advisor, all in one! I was wary at first, as not all trainers know what they’re talking about, especially in LA, where everyone seems to be a trainer of some description but, boy, I definitely hit the jackpot with Shawn! I’m not just saying that, either, as I’ve had plenty of trainers in my life and I’ve gotten rid of most of them, but with Shawn it was clear straight away that he was the real deal. The clock was ticking, after all, so I didn’t have any time to waste!

Almost a year later and my body now has plenty more curves, exactly where I want them. Some people think that adding curves adds weight, but it doesn’t. It’s all about fat loss and weight distribution. Working with Shawn I have lost 10 lbs of fat which has been replaced with muscle, and I’ve lost 2 inches around my waist plus 3 inches around my belly. I’m also much stronger and have tons more energy, which was one of the most important things for me.

So now I’m going to share with you the tips Shawn has given me to help other women with small frames attain those beautiful, sexy curves you’ve always craved.

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Tip #1 Limit Your Cardio

The number one thing women tend to do when signing up to a gym or starting a new workout program is to pound those cardio machines, banging out miles and miles on the treadmill, powering through spinning classes and generally going as fast and hard as they can, as though the more intense the workout, the faster the fat will burn and the muscle will build. But it doesn’t work that way and, if anything, you could be doing your body more harm than good if you go off too fast.

If you want to build curves, you have to stop burning too many calories during cardio because you’ll actually lose muscle, not gain it, but it’s muscle which is going to give you the curves you crave. Toned muscle also helps smooth out dimples and cellulite and will improve the elasticity of your skin and prevent it from sagging.

Work out smarter, not harder. I’ve lost a lot of fat and a lot of inches from simply working out less and working out smarter. Hitting the cardio might help you drop pounds more quickly, but it’s also putting stress on your heart and your body, and that can often speed up the ageing process. And remember, dropping weight quickly isn’t going to make you curvy, is it? It’s only going to make you skinny and leave you with no energy or strength because your muscles have nothing to hang on to.

So now I’m going to share with you the tips Shawn has given me to help other women with small frames attain those beautiful, sexy curves you’ve always craved.

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Tip #2 Stop Calorie-Counting

That doesn’t mean you should go out and eat pizza every night, it just means that counting calories doesn’t necessarily lead to weight loss or achieving the perfect body. Not only do we tend to do too much cardio, but we eat less as a result, and this is a big no-no. It’s not the amount of calories in your food you need to look at, it’s the type of food you’re eating which is important. And if you’re used to doing lots of exercise, then your body will naturally crave more calories in order to keep up your energy levels. So if you’re going to work out, you need to eat!

When you work out too much and eat fewer calories, you are starving your body, and when your body enters this starvation mode you are surrendering control of it there’s nothing you can do to stop your body battling for calorific survival. It will start to convert and store everything you put into it, as fat. So think about it. If you starve yourself or significantly reduce your calorie intake as you work out, you won’t be losing weight at all, you’ll be gaining it, because your body will start making fat instead of burning it. Worse, you have no control, either, where that fat ends up and once it’s arrived at its final destination (bum, thighs, belly…) it can be impossible to shift.

So think about your diet and what you’re putting into your body. You need to maintain a healthy calorie intake but via healthy foods. It goes without saying that you should avoid anything processed, fast food, TV dinners, anything in a packet. Eat fresh, eat healthy, and don’t pay too much attention to the number of calories. It’s the nutrients, vitamins and water you’re ingesting which will help you get those curves, not the amount of calories on their own.

For example, if I said you needed 1800 calories a day, that doesn’t mean you should just head out and eat any foods which add up to that number. Do your homework, research the best foods to eat and make meal plans. You can actually eat a lot of food on 1800 calories if you know what’s what.

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Tip #3 Be a heavyweight

No, I don’t mean you should bulk up and become some butch bodybuilder, but it is true that lifting heavier weights during your workout will actually build muscle subtly and solidly. Think back to when you do your normal workout I bet that you do lots of reps but stay low on the weights, right? So you might lift 8 lbs for squats or upper body while doing 15-20 reps. But I have news for you; it’s not going to do much for you. Of course, you might see some results at the beginning, especially if you have more fat on your body or you’re just starting out. But if you’re someone like me who doesn’t really need to lose weight but just needs to tone up, lose body fat or build muscle, then you need to step it up. Don’t be afraid of getting huge arms and thick legs, I can assure you it won’t work that way. In fact, you’re not going to get big at all, because building muscle is very hard to do.

If you want to have that hourglass figure and nice round booty, then start lifting heavier weights. Want to lose weight, too? Then combine lifting heavy with healthier, smarter cardio and a ‘good calorie’ diet. I’m up to 200 lbs on the leg press and I squat with 30 lbs weights each side. I haven’t gotten bulky at all! My legs are actually slimmer, as I’ve replaced the fat with muscle. You might be surprised to hear that fat takes up more room on your body than muscle, so replace the fat with muscle and your legs/body will be slimmer. It’s not rocket science, but it’s science all the same.

I know it’s hard to get your brain around the fact that lifting heavy will help you tone up and slim down, but bodybuilders themselves are on a whole different level which require completely exercises, regimes and diets and that’s something you just don’t have to worry about unless that’s the route you want to take. I’m still petite and little. I wear a XS in clothing, my waist is 25 inches and my hips are 34 inches. I haven’t gotten bigger, I’ve actually gotten smaller while building my booty and giving it a nice lift.

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Tip #4  Waste Your Waist

What I mean by this is to either lose inches around your waist, or to create the appearance of a smaller waist. This helps to give your body the curves you want. You do this by:

1. Eating healthily and tracking your food because nutrition counts for 80% of results when it comes to losing weight. If you work out but don’t eat well, then good luck with getting the body you want. OK, that might work when you’re 20 (it did for me!) but you’ve got think long-term.

2. Focusing on healthy cardio, but not too much. You will want to work out smarter by finding your natural fat burning zone. So many of us jump on a treadmill or take a workout class but don’t stay within our fat burning zone. Instead, we exceed the fat burning zone, which means you’re less likely to reach your goals. So get a heart rate monitor and start tracking your cardio more – this way you will be burning more fat.

An easy way to calculate it is to take 180 and then minus your age. This will be the likely top end of your heart rate For example, mine would be 141, so I don’t want to go over this number when doing cardio. Then take 141 and minus it by 20 that’s your low end. For me, this means I shouldn’t go below 121. So 121-141 is my natural fat burning zone.

Do this each year and the number will go down. When you start working out according to y our fat burning zone, you might not feel like you’re getting anywhere it might even feel easy! But this is where you have to get over the idea that working out more gives you better results. It doesn’t. Remember, work out smarter! I say this a lot because I’m trying to change the way you think about working out.

– Work out for 30-60 minutes, 4 times a week. Do this and you’ll start burning more fat which will help you to lose weight around your waist.
– Start lifting heavier weights so you can start building muscle and begin working on those curves.
– Work on your back muscles, in particular, as that will give you the V shape which can help accentuate a smaller waist. Do 3 sets of different back exercises and rows.
– Don’t forget your legs! If you’re losing fat, working on your leg muscles will help fill out your booty and give you that hour glass shape you’re looking for naturally.

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