For a French woman, every aspect of life is romantic, passionate, and pleasurable. After all, France is referred to as the romance capital of the world, where seduction and sexuality is a way of life for the ladies. It’s in everything they do – from the lingerie they wear to bed and the way they apply their makeup, to how they strut down the boulevard in stilettos when they shop. (Lingerie is a French word, by the way!) Why do you think we call that special, sensual tantalizing kiss with the tongue a French kiss? Because when it comes to creating a hot and steamy sexual encounter, no one does it quite like a French mademoiselle.
French women are somewhat theatrical when it comes to sleeping with a man –the stage is always set for seduction. They pay attention to the most seemingly insignificant details to maximize a romantic experience so it can be as pleasurable as possible for both parties. By wearing beautiful undergarments, bathing with perfumed soaps, using skin lotions and creams and always keeping a bottle of good champagne in the fridge, French women are always ready for a little ooh la la. This way, she always feels beautiful, confident and geared up to truly allow herself to be carried away by the sexuality and passion of the moment.
By creating a kind of psychic “path” in her life, the French woman generates a way for love to find its way to her front door. Using her senses, she is able to seduce her lover in such a way that he keeps coming back for more, all the while treating her like the lady she is –not some tramp who is desperate for a little male attention. The mystery of the French woman is that her man knows he can lose her at any moment. French women understand that romance and seduction take time. Love is a ritual and is meant to be appreciated slowly, just the way good food is appreciated.
We can learn a lot from the women of France. Here are a few simple and easy tips that will teach you how to use your five senses to seduce your man and keep him on his toes:
French Technique: Use Conversation to Arouse the Intellect
Our sense of hearing is an integral part of conversation and intellect. Stimulating the ears can stimulate the intellect, which, in turn, stimulates the libido. Edith Kunz, author of Fatale: How French Women Do It, tells us that in France, “scintillating repartee is highly prized. Electronic entertainments and mindless parlor games are slow to catch on in a country where human spontaneity and quick wit is revered.” She goes on further to say, “French women know better than to bore male suitors,” with mindless talk about subjects only interesting to the speaker.
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Our ears are the gateway to our brains, and our brains are the center of all pleasure. All satisfaction starts in the mind, and interesting conversation is a great way to get that organ revved up. It’s amazing how improving your communication skills can help with your dating life! Take lessons from famous courtesans and French women in becoming a skilled conversationalist; keep up to date on current events and read books, magazines, and blogs about subjects that interest you. By supplying your own brain with new material, you’re cultivating a base for conversations that truly engage men of interest.
When entertaining lovers, take a cue from the French and start with intelligent and witty conversation before resorting to passive entertainment like TV and movies. To educate yourself on what type of conversation to avoid, take some time and do a little bit of innocent eavesdropping in public. You’ll surely notice that despite continuous talking, friends and romantic partners communicate very little to one another. Another tactic is to turn on the television and spend some time listening and analyzing the conversations that take place on reality TV. The mindless and random chatter will surely become evident!
Nowadays, we seem to have lost the art of conversation. Instead, women try to seduce men with revealing clothing, sexually explicit body language, and sex. These will all work to get a man in bed, but to keep him you need more than just a sexy dress and a willingness to spread your legs. It doesn’t mean you can’t be sexy but next time you’re out on a date, combine your intelligence, humor, and sexuality. Don’t rush dinner; enjoy the conversation and stay for dessert and coffee.
French Technique: A Sexy Massage
The word “massage” is actually the French word for “knead” or “touch.” Creating the space to experience an erotic massage is an important part of nurturing the naughty part of your home oasis.
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Beautiful and sensual sheets make the perfect place for sex and massage. To tantalize his sense of touch, take him to your comfortable bed. Flip your hair onto his body and slowly drag it from his lower legs to his upper back. Then caress him all over with massage oil. Tease him with your touches and let yourself be teased. Disrobe completely before jumping on top of him to be his naughty masseuse. Don’t just use your hands to touch him, make use of your lips, tongue, nipples, breasts, and vulva (outer part of your pussy). From this position, use your nether region and slide it all over his body as you massage him. Slowly bend over to slide your nipples up and down his body while bringing your lips and tongue down to touch him as well.
Touch offers so much to our sexual and romantic experiences. It stimulates as well as relaxes, making women more likely to climax and men better able to control their ejaculate. Too often we forget to use this vital part of seduction. Most of us just think of using only our hands when it comes to touching lovers, but that’s just the beginning. Use your imagination and get a little naughty.
French Technique: Aphrodisiacs to Set the Mood
When using food as a precursor to sex or as a part of an act of seduction, arranging the table with foods that evoke sexual appetite can help set the mood. French foods are common aphrodisiacs, with items like oysters on the half-shell, cream-kissed berries, champagne, and chocolate, all of which incite a pleasure that starts on your tongue and lingers in the body.
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Pulling off an oyster dinner in your own home would be difficult without a kitchen staff! If you want to use aphrodisiacs in your dinner theater, you can choose any food that makes you feel sexy, carnal, or downright hot and bothered. For some ladies, this might be ripping meat off of ribs before licking your fingers sensually. Vegetarian naughty girls might serve whole artichokes, whose many layers can be peeled off and eaten one by one, revealing the tender, succulent center.
If planning an aphrodisiac meal is too daunting, it’s better to go out to eat than fumble through a home-cooked meal without confidence. Remember, you can always come back to the house for champagne or dessert. Or, you can turn yourself into dessert. To do this, cover your bed with an old sheet (or better yet, the Liberator Fascinator throe which is decadent to touch, waterproof, and completely machine washable!) and surround yourself with sexy edibles like chocolate syrup, strawberries, cherries, and whipped cream. This way, you’re tantalizing his taste buds by letting him taste you.
French Technique: Apply Perfume Perfectly
French women can make their presence known by their own personalized fragrance formula, as they know exactly where to place it on their bodies to get the most lingering effects throughout the day. Kunz says French women never forget the importance of “rousing the curiosity of an intelligent man with original and provocative details, such as smell.” You want to awaken his senses and tease him with different scents.
Any naughty girl with a bottle of perfume by Dior, Chanel, or Estée Lauder understands there is something sexual, and powerful, within. French thinkers agree. The French poet Paul Valéry once said, “Perfumes are the greatest traitors in the world; they herald, they outline, and they declare the most delicious of intentions.” Likewise, French painter Jean Honoré Fragonard vouched for the power of fragrance saying, “If you use this perfume your love problems will vanish.”
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Apply perfume to your wrists, pat it a few times, and dab the area behind your ears and just above your collarbone, where you can feel your pulse. Most of us learned to rub our perfume into our wrists in a circular motion, but this breaks down the scent’s lasting power. Remember the mantra “patting is power.”
Choosing perfume based on your own preferences is important, but using fragrances in the art of seduction is somewhat involved. Essentially, you want to develop an arsenal of aromas. These can be perfumes, scented soaps or lotions, and even your own musk, which is arguably the sexiest scent of all. If you are seeing a lover for more than one passionate evening, switching up your aroma can enhance your natural allures. Much of our sexuality comes from our sense of smell, so you can keep him on his toes and cultivate mystery by alternating your fragrance.
To harness the power of perfume, you have to believe in it. Applying a scent you don’t love or doesn’t suit you means you won’t have the confidence to seduce or entertain naturally and effortlessly. Choosing the right scent for you takes time and patience. Visit a perfume store and smell a few samples before applying one perfume to your wrist. Wear it throughout the day to see how the fragrance changes as it mixes with your natural scent. Be bold and ask other women, even strangers, what fragrance they’re wearing. It might seem tiresome, but going through this process can really help you find a signature, sexy fragrance that immediately boosts your confidence and swagger.
You may find that a certain fragrance works well in your home, but that you prefer to wear different scents outside, in the workplace, or on your travels. Matching your fragrance with your intention can enhance its power. You can also shed your workday when you arrive back at home by switching up your fragrance to unwind quickly and get to your evening hours without work thoughts lingering.
This is especially important for ladies with steady romantic partners. Switching up your home or personal perfume routine can inject spice into your love life. If you have a personal scent you don’t deviate from, use that to your advantage by spritzing a small amount on his pillow on a random day. By using fragrance as a marker of your presence, sexuality, and personality, you can subtly manipulate your surroundings to make the sexiest home possible.
French Technique: Looking Ravishing
Men are very visual creatures. They rely on what they see rather than what they feel. Where a woman might be more attracted to a man because of how he makes her feel, a man will be more attracted to a woman because she is beautiful, sexy, and alluring. Put simply, men are stimulated by what they see, which is why it is so important for a woman to focus on her looks, get dolled up, and wear ravishing lingerie.
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Many women are insecure about the way they look. They second guess themselves and their own beauty. It can be easy to end up lounging around life in comfortable and concealing sweatpants. Don’t let this happen to you! You’re gorgeous in every way and you must know this deep within. Confidence and self-assurance are sexy. If you don’t know you’re beautiful, then stand in front of a mirror for at least 15 minutes every day. Look at yourself and give yourself positive affirmations until you see your own beauty. It is only when you see yourself for the sexy seductress that you are, that men will, too.
French women wear lingerie every single day. They don’t just wear it for special occasions, nor do they reserve it for their lovers. They wear colorful, flattering, matching sets with lace and silk for themselves because they know it helps them feel more beautiful. Maybe no one knows the French mademoiselle at the office is wearing a Chantelle Thomass thong and bra under her business suit, but she knows. In this way, her seduction is her secret weapon.
French women understand the value of lingerie and they use it all time to seduce their lover. Just think of all the beautiful undergarments we wear that have been given French names! (The word bra, for example, comes from the French word brassiere). Remember, lingerie doesn’t only include just bras and panties. It is négligées….another French word…..as in, sexy, satin nighties with a length that goes to the floor. It is bustiers (yes, French again!), also known as corsets. It is sexy stockings and pretty, lacy, form-fitting undergarments.
Ditch the granny panties and invest in some quality lingerie. If you’re not comfortable showing off too much of your body, there are tons of different lingerie styles for every body type. Find the one that you makes you feel your best. Find colors and textures that look and feel good against your skin. You can always throw on a sheer robe if it helps you feel more comfortable to be covered up.
When you invite your lover over for an evening of seduction, answer the door in your lingerie. It could be a French maid’s outfit (men love this!) or nothing but a pair of fishnet stockings and hot high heels. When you make love, leave something on and let your body peak through. For instance, wear a sheer bra with lace so he can see your nipples through the fabric. Then, before he leaves, secretly put a piece of your lingerie in his pants pocket or briefcase so when he finds it later, he will remember your encounter (do this only if you’re in an exclusive, monogamous relationship or else it looks like a jealous attempt to mark your territory!).
– Sienna Sinclaire® – The Single Girl ®: Your Naughty Lifestyle Guide