Month of Giving – Cunnilingus

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If it’s your lover’s turn to be in the giving mood, what better way than just lying back, and letting him go down on you. Oral sex is one of the most sensuous, intimate parts of lovemaking, so it makes sense to know exactly what you’re doing, so take some time to educate yourself, because it’s not all about the clit. Us girls have so many other things going on down there so, just as guys like having their balls and taints played with while getting a blow job, so girls would like it if their lovers realized there’s so much more to cunnilingus than just sucking a clit.

We have a clit, a vagina, and a G-spot, plus anal zones and plenty of other sensitive areas down there that you can explore. Also, going down on a girl doesn’t just mean using your fingers, tongue and mouth, as pleasurable as that can be. Sex toys can add another dimension to oral sex, so try initiating vibrators, dildos, different lubes and even some mild BDSM gear into your cunnilingus sessions. Not only will you enjoy the experimentation, but you’ll also discover what turns you both on.

Try these tips, if you want to give your girl the best oral sex they’ve ever had.

1. Kiss her

Get between her legs, and begin kissing her inner thighs. They’re very sensitive areas, because the skin is thinner than on the outer thighs, and of course it’s a pathway to her pussy. Showering her with light kisses, licks and gentle, sensuous breaths around her inner thighs, will begin to build up that sexual anticipation within her. The blood will start to rise in her body and she’ll begin to feel warm, tingly and, most importantly, instantly content.

After you’ve paid close attention to her soft, warm inner thighs, venture further towards her outer labia lips. These are the fleshy areas on each side of her vagina, that cover and protect the clit and vaginal opening. All labia are different, but what’s important to know, is that all labia are sensitive.

Kiss this labial area and feel how your lover responds. Not all women will have been lucky enough to have a guy who knows to attend to the labia, so it might be a new experience for her as well as you. In fact, labia can be so sensitive, it’s not uncommon for a woman to come just from having a guy orally work her labia, and not going anywhere near her clit. Imagine…yet another part of a woman’s body that can climax. Us girls are so lucky!

2. Work her clit

Most women’s orgasms are clitoral. But there are so many other things about the clit that most men don’t even know. That beautiful plump bud nestled between a woman’s labia lips, is actually a LOT bigger than what you can see on the surface. The clit is shaped like a wishbone. Imagine the visible part, as the center, then think of the outer labia lips as the legs. These legs are just as sensitive as the central clit, and are filled with thousands of nerve endings, so they love to be stroked and petted, sucked, licked and teased.

When she’s not aroused, you won’t always notice the legs of your lover’s clit. But when you start to get her going, you definitely will notice them! As she becomes more and more excited, her labia lips will start to swell, like a balloon being pumped. Her central clit will also enlarge on arousal.

Use your tongue to stimulate her bud and labia lips. You could even nip ever-so-slightly at her lips, as they become aroused, as you keep flicking her clit with your tongue. Work the whole area, not just the clit, and maybe combine your tongue work with some finger work, switching between the two, to fully arouse her clit. Because everything is attached to each other by a very sensitive network of nerves and blood vessels, working up her lips will have a direct effect on not just her clit, but her whole pussy. No wonder we can come just from having you play with us down there! So take your time and massage her lips with your mouth and your fingers. This will get your woman really worked up!

3. Take her temperature

Sensation plays a huge role in sexual fulfillment, especially when it comes to stimulating a girl’s genital area. We are especially sensitive down there, and we feel every pulse, every nerve ending, every brush of your tongue or finger. A variance in temperature on the skin heightens these sensations, like you’re in charge of her very own inner thermostat. If she’s blindfolded, too, then her extra-sensory perception will be even more intense, because she simply will not know what you’re going to do next.

Keep some hot water by the bed, and some ice cubes. Drink the hot water (not boiling, though), and let it sit in your mouth to regulate the temperature, while you get to work on her pussy with your fingers. Then, either swallow the water and begin sucking her pussy, or dribble the warm water over it instead. Trust me, the sensation is amazing!

Then switch to the ice cubes, and rub them over her pussy. Her skin and nerve endings will contract at the sharp contrast in temperatures, and she’ll already be writhing in pleasure. Push an ice cube up into her vagina (it’s only water, you won’t be harming her), but do it slowly, for added sensation and teasing.

Go slow, so you know she’s OK with it, and because it feels so good, she’ll want to get the most from it.  Then let the ice cube melt inside her hot pussy, before you dive down there and start sucking out the water. This sensation, in itself, is highly erotic, for both of you. You get a mix of water and pussy juices, and she gets the warmness of your mouth, tongue and hot breath gently pulling at her labia and internal walls. Push your tongue up inside her, and feel her thighs tense around your head. Then you’ll know you’ve hit the spot.

If you want to be extra naughty, and she doesn’t mind, move up her body and share the melted ice in your mouth, by kissing her.

For other hot and cold sensations, try using special creams and lubes that you put on her clit to heighten sensation. Just like when she’s giving you a great hand job, warming lubes and creams are just the thing for raising the temperature in the bedroom, and they come in lots of different flavors and consistencies.

Cooling lubes and creams too, can have a similar effect. They’re great not only for instantly altering the sensations she’s feeling down there, but they can also help control when she comes. If you’ve been so successful in your techniques, that her body wants to come, but her mind doesn’t want to, you can use a cooling lube or cream to calm her pussy down. The sensation is just as enjoyable for her, but it can give that vital few minutes respite, before she’s really ready to explode.

4. Discover her Mons Pubis

No, it’s not a moon of Saturn, it’s the fatty area that helps to protect a woman’s pubic bone during intercourse, but it’s also a very sensitive area for us, and is always ripe for arousal. It’s not just men who need educating on this area, though. Most women don’t realize that this delicate area is capable of turning them on so much.

But when a woman masturbates with her hand, it isn’t just her clit she’s stimulating, it’s her mons area too. Where her palm sits, as she rubs herself, is precisely on top of the mons pubis, so she probably doesn’t even realize that she’s giving herself double pleasure.

Don’t believe me? Then, girls, give it a go and find out for yourself. Pay particular attention to where your hands and fingers actually are. The base of your palm, it will be resting on your mons pubis, as your fingers work your clit. Try lifting your palm off your body, and you’ll soon notice that the level of pleasure and sensation decreases. This is because, when you press down on this fatty tissue, it also presses down on the clit and sends more blood rushing to it. And because both women and men don’t realize just how big the clit is, there’s a whole lot more going on under the surface that needs physical stimulation, and pressure on the mons pubis helps this.

So, next time you’re going down on your woman, use the palm of your hand to rub the mons area, whilst simultaneously using your fingers to work her outer labia lips. You’ll drive her crazy with your manual mastery. You can also use your tongue and mouth, to apply direct pressure to this area. Sucking with good pressure, right here, or pushing down her with your tongue, will drive her crazy.

5. Get aroused with ass play

Cunnilingus should mean so much more than just going down on a woman between her legs. For instance, nothing feels more amazing to me, than when my partner is sucking on my clit, fingering my vagina, and my ass. My absolute favorite, is when a guy tongue fucks me in my ass. A girl’s ass is amazingly sensitive, especially around the opening. You don’t have to go for full penetration – in fact, it’s the teasing around the outer edge that is more erotic and sensual, so this is definitely an area worth exploring.

Using sex toys for anal play is a fantastic way of enjoying your lover’s ass. When using toys, though, it’s very important that you buy products that are specifically for anal play, and that have a base, so they can’t be ‘lost’ inside your lover. It sounds incredible, but the ass is also a superior suction zone, and you should only ever use toys that won’t disappear where they’re not supposed to. The only place you should be visiting during passionate anal play, is the top of the clouds, not the emergency room.

There are some fantastic books on anal play out on the market at the moment. You can learn everything from the best sex positions and how to get in the mood for anal play, to tips on which products and toys are the best for anal sex, for both men and women. And guys, you don’t have to be gay to enjoy a little anal play. Whatever your sexual orientation, it doesn’t alter the fact that our anal area is incredibly sensitive, and if you let your lover get to grips with it, both manually and with toys, you won’t be sorry…

For the best anal sex toys, shop around and see just what a variety there is out there. Everything from anal beads, to glass dildos, plus some fabulous cooling and warming lubes that can really alter the sensations you feel as your lover gets to work on you. Anal play is no longer such a ‘niche’ sexual activity, like it used to be. Plenty of couples are discovering just how much fun it can be, and of course, it’s perfectly safe if done properly.

For something extra-spicy, use a vibrating bullet on her clit, while you tongue-fuck her pussy or asshole. Take control of her genital area and let her lie back while you work your magic. Or maybe you can finger her, or suck around her pussy. Exploration is the key word here, and make sure your lover is vocal and open about telling you what they like, so you can enhance the pleasure for them.

There should be nothing more satisfying for a guy, than to know he’s able to give his lover the best cunnilingus she’s ever had. Talk to each other as you go, and listen to her body, not just in the way she moans, but in the way she moves. Body language screams a whole lot louder than words.

Cunnilingus shouldn’t just be an incidental part of sex, either, or be consigned to foreplay. It’s a total sexual experience in itself, and deserves to have proper time and effort spent on it. But sometimes that’s difficult to maintain, as mouths can get tired and achy.  So use your imagination when it comes to making the experience last as long as possible.

6. Assume the position

Once you’re confident in being able to try out some of the techniques listed above, it’ll be time to really put them into practice. Positions are vital, because the way you go down on her, can have a drastic effect on the amount of pleasure she receives.

Many men just stick to the standard position for giving cunnilingus, by sliding down on the bed and putting their head between her legs, but there are so many different positions to try, each offering their own, unique oral experience.

-Lying down: this is probably most comfortable for a woman, and the most relaxing, and if you’re planning on really taking your time with her, then she’ll have no complaint about lying there and letting you get on with it. Keep with this position while you practice your techniques, before experimenting with something a little different further on down the road.

-From behind: easily one of my favorites, this is super hot, as you’ll have easy access to her ass, as well as being able to service her pussy with your fingers at the same time. Plus, if a woman is lying on her stomach, or with a pillow underneath her, she can easily feel added pressure as it rubs up against her mons area and clit.

-Sitting on her face: for control purposes, this is fantastic for the girl, as she can ‘steer’ her pussy any which way she wants, and regulate the pressure on her mons and clit, too. Every guy loves having his face fucked, and the sight of her breasts jiggling right above you as she rides you? Sexy as hell, right?

-Using sex furniture or a pillow: not something many people are actually aware of, but there are specially-designed pieces of furniture out there, to help you prop you into the perfect position for whatever sexual position you choose to indulge in. Wedges, ramps, stools and special sex chairs, they can all give you easier access to certain body parts. Alternatively, just get creative with a few cushions and pillows, and find your own natural sex position, anything that feels good.

-Get wet: A lot of women are awkward or shy when it comes to a guy going down on them, because they think they smell, or it’s unclean. We all have our own scent, that you should never hide with soaps or perfumes, because men love our natural smell. But if you are a little sensitive about your genital area, just go and have oral sex in the shower instead! Guys, try propping her up against the wall, on the edge of the bathtub, so she can spread her legs and you can get comfortable between them. Whatever position you choose, just make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable.

My favorite shower position is standing up, with the guy on his knees between my legs. I then get to crouch or stand straight according to how he’s feeling on me, and standing orgasms are always very intense for me. Invest in some shower sex toys to really get the most out of your bathtime playtime.

It would be impossible to list all the positions that are great for going down on your woman. But by experimenting with what feels good for you, you might be surprised at the things you find you like.

Try a sex swing, an inflatable position master, or spend some time perusing the numerous books, DVDs and online instructional manuals that will really open your eyes to the wealth of oral sex positional possibilities.

Get all your fetish and adult sex toys at Sienna Sinclaire’s Sex Toy Store

www.SiennaSinclaireSexShop.com

– Sienna Sinclaire – Your Naughty Lifestyle Expert

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